Hi, i have been checking out this wonderful website for a while now.
My poor dad aged 76 has already gone thru jaw cancer, had surgery,chemo and radiatherapy to cure it just over 3 years ago, he has now unfortunately got cancer of the oesophagus. He had a stent fitted a couple of weeks ago and also just had a pet scan. Results came back yesterday.
We were told that he also has secondary cancer in his lung.
He isn't being offered surgery as it is advanced cancer and has been told that after discussion, the best option is chemotherapy to help try to shrink the tumours but only as a palliative measure. The doc said that without the chemo treatment, he would probably only have months.
We are going to see the oncologist next week to discuss the different chemo treatments for my dad. our minds are in overdrive. Does he refuse treatment and enjoy his last months enjoying days out with my mum, or does he accept mild chemo treatment that could last months, making him ill and then not really giving him any meaningful, quality time after that? We know that the prognosis for this type of cancer isn't good especially with the secondary cancer. My sister was a district nurse and is fully aware of how long people last at this stage of cancer.
I am very selfish as i feel very stressed, i can't imagine how frightened my dad must be feeling. He says he just doesn't want to linger.
thanx for being here to listen.
