Thanks for all the comforting words from my previous post. Its good to know i'm not alone, although it feels like I am.
I keep thinking about my Dad and thinking that they could have done more for him. I have read about pneumonia and treatments and there seems to be so much more they could have done. Im finding it hard to get my head round the fact that they stopped treatment for Dads pneumonia in such a short time. They said he was'nt responding but surely he must have been to have been eating and drinking. He had some sips of water only an hour or so before he died.
I know that nothing will bring him back and a friend has said that I should not be deliving into info on the net but I just want to know exactly how he died. I thought Doctors were supposed to preserve life.
As I read this back I sound a bit irrational but I feel I cant settle untill I know everything. I know my Dad was'nt ready to die and it just seems so unfair.
FormerMember
Doctors do preserve life, but not at all cost. Thank goodness for that. It also seems a very normal human reaction to go round looking for someone to blame after you have lost a loved one; I've done it myself, even though there WAS no-one to blame. And I've seen it in so many other people. Try not to torture yourself with it, try to accept. It won't bring him back, won't spare him any pain. But you need to find peace and this blaming gets in the way. There is nothing more you can do.
Unfortunately there are four distinct groups of pneumonia and each one has to be treated with a different antibiotic. It is virtually impossible for doctors to tell which type and a lot of the threatment is guesswork - even in this day and age. I had pneumonia and I was not allowed to go to a ward until my antibiotics kicked in. Basically I was dying - my liver and kidneys had stopped functioning and the next major organ would have been the heart. The alertness of mY GP got me into hospital but it was shear luck that they got the right antibiotics into me. Truly sorry for your loss but sometimes not even the medical profession can circumvent fate.
