juggling..coping...angry..is any of it real??

Hi Samman, you really are having it hard hun aren't you!  I too had cancer, diagnosed 6 years ago last December, but have come out the other side relatively unscathed lol.  

My dad too was diagnosed with bowel cancer spread to his liver in February this year.  Unfortunately it was very widespread (in his lungs and spleen) and dad passed away on the 9th April.

Dad was told from the start that any treatment he would be given would be palliative, so if they haven't said anything like this to your dad I would imagine they are hoping to successfully treat him.

I hope you continue to come on this site where you will find loads of support and understanding.

I hope all goes well for you and your dad.  Please continue to post and let us know you are both doing.

Best wishes, Christine xx

my goodness your going through such a lot, and at such a young age, its good that they are treating yours so agressively, i believe if they had treated mine agressively  in 99 i wouldnt bet where i am today, they only gave me rads then.

so i know its seems bad now but hopefully it will blast it away forever,

children are such a blessing arent they, and we cant pause and think of ourselves, which is a blessing in itself sometimes, you will have to smile when you feel like crying sometimes, but hopefully have tears of laughter too,as kids do that to us too... good luck with everything sam

liz xxx

hi samman, i sympathies with your feelings & anger plus trying to cope with every day life. I was diagnosed with dermatomysitis on the 8 mar then lung cancar the following week, since then i have been living a nightmare, as being 57 yrs old and being very independant, this is hard to understand (why me). The only way i have managed to cope is by not asking to many fearful questions and letting the experts plan your course. I have now started my chemo & radiotherapy, this is for 7 weeks... Anyway, always be positive........

Hi Samman,

                     You have a lot to cope with at the moment and I am glad to see you have not lost your sense of humour. Hold on to that because it really helps when times are hard. I am sure your Dad appreciates everything you do for him, but you must look after yourself, for your sake and for your little boy. I know what you mean when you say are you writing a story. Finding yourself in this situation doesn't really seem real but you just have to stay positve, accept the support of others and hopefully, there will be more good times than bad.

            Love and very best wishes to you and your Dad,

                                   Take care,  lizzie xx

Hi Samman,

You poor love, it seems as if you are fighting a battle on two fronts. I agree with the others, as difficult as it might be you must make your health the first priority.

I know what you mean about having to put your bits on display - and the docs having a peer are all like Brad Pitt!  I was treated for breast cancer and am now hardly embarrassed at all about strange men groping me LOL!

All the best wishes for  a successful outcome for you both.

KateG