How Do You Stop Time

Hi Teresa.  I understand exactly how you are feeling and have no words of wisdom to offer you that will help.  What I can offer is a sympathetic ear and the hope that you will make the most of every second with your dear dad.  Has your mum decided to keep him at home now and, if she has, has she got a good support structure in place?  Love to you and yours.  Caroline XX

Yes caroline they are sending a nurse 3 times a day to check and change his driver and carers will be coming in to help mum. He will stay at home but mum is very scared to see him die at home as she is alone. I will help in anyway i can xx

Hi Teresa

How I wish we could stop time! What you can do though is make very second that you spend with your wonderful dad into a memory to be imprinted forever in your heart, to stay  together with every special time you have  treasured in your life .xx  

Mum didnt eat at all  for about 4/5 weeks before she passed, and it is frightening seeing the weight fall off, try not to think too much about it though.I was told by the mac nurse that the body no longer needs food as things progress and I know I stressed about Mum not being able to swallow and whetehr she had managed a fortisip drink that day or not!! Mum would force herself to drink them to pacify me, with hindsight it was a hassle she probably didnt need!! As long as your dad does not get dehyrated or too bunged up (a problem mum suffered from near the end) then his body will tell him what he needs.

I know the thought of spending Christmas without your dad is terrible, but just try to take it from day to day. I never imagined that when mum was diagnosed in July she would not be here for Christmas, the only consolation I try to rationalise it with is that her pain is over, she is somewhere betetr than this and that she was a wonderful mum and I was lucky to have her in my lifexx

I know how hard it is to watch someone that you love deeply deteriorate in this way, make sure you give yourself a bit of time each day to absorb things and dont overdo everything else (all your housework etc will wait) as if you end up worn out you will find it harder to cope with the emotional side of thingsxx

Anyway, just wanted to send a (((hug))), let you know that I am here, and feel free to pm me if you want to talkxx

Thinking of you , Sharonxx

hey tree, always here for you,here, fb, text or a phone call.. anytime..

take comfort in that your dad is in a more comfortable, familiar place. surrounded by his loving family. and you are doing everything possible to make him comfortable.

treasure every happy memory you have with your dad.and remember, we are all here for you..

and it was lovely meeting you =)

sending you lots of love

and (((Huge hugs)))

xxx

Hi Treetop,

Who knows what your Dad can do. I hope for you and your Families sake he manages to get there and beyond. No one can predict the future. I wish you and your Mum all the best and of course your Dad. All the best and look after each other.

Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xx.