counselling and such

I understand exactly what you mean when you say you haven't 'misplaced' your husband. I've lost so many people whom I have loved and I know that cold hand that clutches at your heart and twists it until you scream in pain. I expect you've heard this a thousand times... it does get better. The pain does lessen, I promise.

Best wishes,

KateG

Hi,

My husband passed away in Feb 09, and it is only very recently that I start feeling vaguely able to live without sobbing all the time.

Anyone who experienced this understands that there is no such thing as "moving on", but someone advised me that I would start feeling "normal" after 2 years.

The pain has got easier recently. I can now appreciate more about the time I spent with my husband than crying for the time I should have had with him.

I guess we will never "get over" it, but will gain strength to rebuild a life gradually.

Very best wishes,

Naoko

Just wanted to send you lots of hugs Heather.  Thinking of you and am here for you always.

Lots of Love

Nic xxx

hi red

I don't think there is such a thing as a normal length of time to start to cope with our situation, it is different for everyone. I know you have been doing really well so far, but i am sure it does not feel that way. But there is a certain amount of numbness at this stage, at least for me, and I think that actually protects you for a while. when it starts to go is when it gets hard again but others can't see it, it was all a while ago for them.

Take care of yourself at this difficult time of year.

my thoughts are with you

Becky

Hi Red,

There is never a specific time when you should come to terms with the death of a Loved one. Only

you and you alone will know when the pain eases.

That could take a long time. Look after yourself

Red.

Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xx