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  • Im thinking Im lucky to have reached 45

    FormerMember
    FormerMember

    A good friend of mine passed away yesterday morning. She was 39 and had been suffering from Breast Cancer that ultimately went to her brain. She leaves behind  a husband and 2 young children 7and 9.I never mentioned Mel Frisby much on Mac, as to be honest she had Breast Cancer for such along time  and fought it successfully for such a long period  that she crept to the back of my mind, with everything that had been happening…

  • counselling and such

    FormerMember
    FormerMember

    There comes a point when people and counsellors think you should be over  a bereavement or adjusted or have moved on. Typically I think  it comes around the 5th or 6month mark.In truth and in reality that is when its just hiiting home because it is the paralysing reality of our new situations that we dont want that we have to face everyday. I didnt lose my husband 5 months ago that implies he popped out and went somewhere…

  • The story so far ...plus Christmas

    FormerMember
    FormerMember

    My husband Melvyn was diagnosed with advanced lung cancer in July 09.He had no symptoms up until a week before he was admitted to hospital.He had a bad back and because he had previously had 3 operations to reconstruct his spine and always had a degree of back pain we assumed it was his old back problem.We were wrong, it was bone involvement from the Cancer in his lungs.When we discovered it was Cancer the doctors told me my…