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Fiona,

Days like these happen, we all fall apart a little sometimes.  Doesn't make you weak, doesn't make you a bad friend/relative it just makes you human.  

Hopefully your friends will understand although some can sometimes be a bit slow on the uptake of "signals" we give out eh ;)

Love & Strength

Debs xx

Don't worry about it Fiona, if she is a true friend she will understand that your emotions are on a roller coaster & that you didn't really mean it.

I feel awful about how I treated an old work colleague the other day when I bumped into her at the supermarket. My hubby & I used to work with her & her hubby many years ago and we were good friends. Then my hubby was retired on ill health from the job he loved and he couldn't hack it. He began drinking heavily & we went through 3 years of turmoil. He got himself back on track but that was when you find out who your real friends are & they stick by you. Unfortunately this couple faded into the background pretty quickly so when I saw her last week & she smugly asked me how things were & that I looked well I couldn't resist telling her how wrong she was, that I had been diagnosed with cancer, had a big op & was still recovering. I just wanted to see the confusion on her face & make her feel bad but I so regretted it once I got home. I hope she realises I wasn't really holding a grudge from years ago & that at the moment my mouth sometimes opens & things come out that I don't really mean.

Give your friend a call before you worry yourself anymore about it, I'm sure she will be happy to hear from you,

Love & best wishes Angie xx

Hi Fiona, Sorry you had emotional probs, we all do it. I get short fused and spit the dummy out, I think its all part of the fun of having cancer. Dont worry, your friends understand more than you realise, thats why they are still your friends. Kids with cancer is the worst scenario I can imagine, I get REALLY EMOTIONAL, so much that I have to walk out of the room if it comes up on telly.

           Chill a little, another stage is over, deep breaths and take it one day at a time.

Love bill xxx

I think debs hit it on the head,sometime friends wil try and do a bit too much to make you feel comfortable Fi. i wouldnt let yourself get too wound up about it.

one thing ive noticed is this 15 mins of sympathy you get from people. they have their own lives but when you really need a hug no-one will notice cos you will be that good at hiding it. its when it is in everybody elses face that they will turn to you to have their show of affection noted down by whoever?! its alll meant in good faith but most people dont get it at all. they never will. we just have to learn to deal with it....

chin up love,you are over the worst of it... now its just the demons you have to evict!! xx

Morning all, thanks for your supportive comments.  I feel much better this morning, still niggled but this is my problem and I need to chill when people try to help. Its always been my problem, I'm a giver not a taker apparently!!

Maybe the wine affected me more than I thought (looking at the terrible spelling it did!)

Thanks again, and today is a new positive day.

Keep smiling x