I have been reading other people's entries and realised that maybe I should start my own.
It's not about me but my Mother-in-law - just diagnoised.
The appt on Monday 22nd didn't really go well , found out that her only hope is Chemo.
I think deep down I knew this as I work in a hospital and the cons were I work has been really helpful, arranging CT, Bone scans and inserting chest drains.
My Hubby is holding up well, he broke down yesterday when he told me that she was upset as she wouldn't see our children grow up and that they wouldn't remember her (5 yrs and 3 yrs)
I suggested he brought a video camera, and last night he came home with one so spent all evening playing about with it, at least it kept his mind of it.
I haven't been sleeping well, and then I feel gulity because how must she be feeling, being told that you are going to die. I still cannot get my head round it as she looks so well, just her breathing a little breathless.
She had to have an Enema yesterday as all the drugs she has been taking have blocked her up and once it started working she couldn't stop (her words not mine) did make me laugh
I'm trying not to be sad and be strong for her as we need to keep her positive and she always thinks if I'm upset it's because I might know something from work .
FormerMember
Hello Poppet,
I just wanted to say that I'm thinking of you. One bit of advice I can give you is to make lots of nice memories now, kisses, hugs, walks and talks. It sounds silly to say 'be strong' but positive thinking is so much better for everyone than the alternative, especially when you have children as small as yours.
I recently lost my beloved mum to lung cancer and I have to say that throughout all the pain and agony of realising that she was going, my wonderful husband was a total rock - always there for me, never moaning about the usual day-to-day gripes that we all have - and I will be eternally grateful to him.
You mum-in-law needs to have positivity around her as particularly at this time of year, we can really slip down into a dark place with all the 'what ifs' that lurk there.
My heart goes out to you and yours - stay with us on here for support and a good rant when you need one (I certainly had my fair share - read my blog!)
