My Mother-in-law ended back in hospital yesterday, she didn't feel well and felt the fluid was building up again.
She had a chest xray when she arrived but unfortunally as it's the week-end no doc available to do the drain.
My father-in-law was very angry about this but I tried explaining that the hospital's prioty were critical patients and that she would be done as soon as there was a doctor free. They have said now the chest drain will be done on Monday so my mother-in-law was allowed home on day release but to go back the same evening. I thought this was a good idea as my father-in-law and hubby said she should discharge herself which I thought was pointless as she would only have to go through the whole process again, chest xray etc...
My Father-in-law is now saying it better be done tomorrow, I know he is angry that this has happened to her but what can he do if it isn't done tomorrow. I think this puts more pressure on my mother-in-law as she worries that he will upset the docs and they have been so good to her.
Fingers crossed that she has it done and she can come home as her chemo appt is for the 5th jan
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I can understand how frustrating it is waiting to see the doctor for the drain.my Dad was admitted late on Xmas Eve so with the holiday & weekend it will not be done to atleast Monday. Even then not sure if they will do it.
We can only be patient. The drain is not classed as critical, it is just to make my Dad more comfortable. I am sure it is the same for your Mother-in-Law.
My start to the day wasn't good, my father -in-law calling first thing to see if my Mother-in-laws chest drain would be today, just because I work at the hospital he thinks I would know.
I tried explaining to him that they work down the order they receive the requests, so it's hard to say as I don't know how many other patients are before her and also what type of procedures they are having done some take 10 mins other take a couple of hrs.
I said the best thing for him to do was call up the doc and get them to speak to the doc who does the chest drain.
I then phoned my hubby to tell him what his dad had asked me and he got all moody and said if I didn't want to help then don't bother.
So after all this I was really upset and phoned my mum, she asked if it was the other way round would my hubby be bending over backwards for her and I knew the answer would be NO.
Anyway to cut a long story short I felt really guilty and phoned up the doc were I work, I said to him that I didn't want to keep pestering him as he had other more critical patients to see but I was getting grief from my in-laws and they wanted to know if the chest drain was going to be done today.
He explained that he didn't know if a chest drain would really help her as the last time he done one the lung had deflated and wouldn't inflate again. He said he would go and talk to her consultant, it appears that the fluid is in little pockets and not all in one area. well in the end she had the drain in the biggest pocket.
I popped in to see her tonight while I was at work, I told her that I didn't want to sound unhelpful but she had been lucky that so far she had had scans etc so quickly (my friends nan is still waiting and she was in before her).
She thanked me for all I had done in the past as if to say don't bother helping me anymore I will just have to put up with it,
Day in day out I see really sick people she's not the only one ill, god now I feel awful writing that I feel so upset I know it's a horrible diesese but what more can I do, I'm getting it in the neck from my Hubby his dad and now my mother-in-law.
I wish i could get her to see the blogs on here of people who are going through hell and they are not moaning, they are getting on with life having good days and bad, If she thinks its bad now wait till she starts the chemo and sees all the other people in the same boat maybe she will realize then she's not the only person to have cancer
