I'm off for a bit, Take Care. x

again wat can we say, if you leave at least you know you can always rejoin and we will all still be here, at first i didnt know if this website was doing me good or not o i take it as i come if i need peeps ue there and thats wat online community is about,curl up and console yourself and we will be waitinf to speak again love claire x

Yes we will be here waiting for you to come back. But I wish you would stick around. You obviously still need our support and we want to give it to you.

Take care Love Julie X

Hi Vicki

I am so sorry that you are having a really tough time, if it helps in any way I have found your support invaluable to me over the last week. I really hope that you find the best way to let you deal with how you are feeling but please remember that everyone here cares about how you arexxx

love and hugs Sharonx

Hi Vicki,

I guess we all have a threshold, at which point we feel we can't go on being positive. God knows in the last few days, I have felt just the same. When beloved family members have their life snuffed out by this killer disease, we all think what is the point of trying any longer. Nothing will bring them back, but we can take heart from the fact that by them passing you and many like you have realised the suffering of others and been able to comfort so many. I don't think a single person here would argue that they have had awful, days, weeks and even months. Coping with grief is a very individual thing and there is no formula, so just do what feels right for you, but please just remember all of us here are all doing our best to make sense of our own individual tragedy. The compassion that people show for complete strangers here is truly amazing and after a very short time it feels like you have gained another family. You are a very valued family member by all accounts so GOD BE WITH YOU on your journey to inner peace. Take care and don't stay away too long

Ian x

Hi Vicky.  Please don't go off of this site unless you feel it's the right thing for you.  We are all here to support each other through the darkest days.  Your friend was happy to let you talk and that means she's a really good friend so don't worry about her she's there for you just like us.  I don't know if you've had any bereavement counselling but if you've not it may be worth a try.  When my dad died I was the strong one.  As an only child I had to be for my mum and like you I didn't really cry and thought I was coping really well.  5 years later, yes 5 years, I started crying one day and I couldn't stop.  After a couple of days I went to my Doctor and he wanted me to take anti depressants.  I had no idea what was wrong and thought I was going mad, just didn't connect it to dad.  A very good friend came round to see me and I started talking and she listened.  It was then I realised what was wrong with me I hadn't grieved.  It was this friend who found out about a charity at a local church hall that offered bereavement counselling.  She arranged an appointment for me and I went along.  It was the best thing I ever did and I have learned that it is really important to grieve and not bottle things up.  I also learned that I had a very good friend in June.  I would never let myself get like that again and I would never hesitate to go for counselling.  It doesn't work for everyone but it did for me so it might for you.  Please look after yourself and I hope to see you around the site soon.  Caroline XX