What happens next.....

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So a lot has happened over the last few weeks, but it's all been overshadowed by the events of last Thursday.

Dad got his results form his scan, they have told him that his cancer is terminal. they are going to do 3 more cycles of chemo as it had a small effect and may help to give him more time but they will never be able to cure it, it's in his bladder, prostrate and chest.

 I asked a friend who had gone with him and mum if they had given any idea of how fast it will progress and apparently they say he will prob have a year. It's only an estimate, could be less, could be more. 

I just don't understand how things can go this way, 2010 was going to be a good year for us all, after everything that happened last year and yet now look at it. I keep trying to find the words to explain how i feel right now, but keep deleting it as i just don't think there are words right now.

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Hidden dreams,

    You are in my thoughts tonight and your Dad as well. I am so sorry about the scan results. There are

    a few words I could think of as well but not printable on the site. I so sorry for you and your Family.

    Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Hidden dreams,

    It is strange how things change in such a short time. My thoughts go out to you and your dad, Take care and a big hug.

    Janet XXXX

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Hidden dreams - so sorry for your familes news - no wonder you cannot find words - some feelings never translate well to the page.

    What has happened to you and your family is so hard and unfair - but thats what this disease does - steals the joy of life out of people.

    You will need time to come to terms with the news and I understand at a deep level it wil always be a part of you.

    My prognosise is a bit longer than your Dads - but the end result will be the same - I have also had longer to come to terms with it.

    The only lesson I have learned is how quickly time marches on - please try not to waste the remaining time you have together regreting what is past and cannot be changed.

    LIve everyday to the most you can - even if that  means just sitting together in a loving silence at times - tell him you love him often -  be there when he needs it while he is here - you cannot do more and never ever feel that you should of.

    Love and hugs mate xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    My time is limited love and you know what I want and that is to be around people i love and care about and to make so many new memories for my family and my friends, so when my time comes, they will be able to talk about some amazing things we did together or close conversations we may have had. I know that memories can't be taken away, so make new memories and do and say what you need to. Thinking of you all....love Carol xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    i cant find the words today , as not having a good afternoon, but i did want to send you my love and hugs ,im thinking of you jenni x