feeling let down

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why do people say "if theres anything i can do just ask" ....then when you do ...they wont !!!!!!!!!!!

most people over the last 8months when weve asked for help ...lift to hospital ..lending us bed ,bedding etc etc ...most people i think everyone up to now have done what we have asked and have helped ...maybe weve been lucky? till now

my daughter-in-law is really down ...i know its a bad time (hell no!!!!? you dont say)

paul had scan yesterday and results next weeek ....so yes we are all waiting again ...for...whats next

helen has already said to me she doesnt think she can handle anything else - i know she will because we do dont we ...but ...i do know she is feeling really bad

apart from the fact that paul is ill and hasnt worked since feb (tho his dad is workin for him ) and here in spain the "income support" is crap!!!! so they are struggling to pay for everthing .....so now on top of health worries helen is also worrying about finances .....well xmas looming and all....

well i had this bright idea ....seeing as my daughter and other son are due to run an half marathon and theyve always said they were doing it for paul ..... my daughter recently posted on fb that she would soon be nattering everyone for sponsers

i emailed her (was a bit hessitant to do so) to suggest they both run for paul and helen .......well what a response i got off them both

my daughter rather sharpish said she could do a "fund raising" but not sponser and she couldnt ask people who didnt know paul and those that did she would feel cheeky ....or words to that effect ...and would paul and helen be offended??? blah blah !!! i just said oh forget it ,it was only an idea ....then my son emailed to say no he wasnt getting sponsered and paul would def not want that ????? why has he asked him ? oh well maybe he has .....it just pissed me right off because when he was in financial trouble with his business at the start of the credit crunch ...who did he come to for help ...yes mum n dad! i wonder now if i should have said no ...you are well go get another job!!!!!

is it me ???

i would like to say that my kids are very loving and think the world of each other i just dont understand this at all .... my daughter would rather raise money for strangers than help out her own brother ? why ...how could she? i am really really upset

on a more positive note after i told my hubby he said one of the bar-owners who knows paul is organising a "charity do" to raise some money for him ......so that cheered me up and i know paul and helen will be thrilled and touched by his kindness ...... now i am wondering what his brother and sister will think about this when they hear others could do what they couldnt ????

sh*t sh*t sh*t ....... thats just how i feel

im sorry ive moaned on ...i did try and go into chat ...i wouldve moaned at whoever was there ...but ...i couldnt get in !!!

 

 

 

 

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    hey guess what i was in chat - i had the bolts on lol

    come on 'live strong' is your quote so come on

    hey i know what u r saying and how u r feeling - but thats how it is

    u been trudging this rocky road for a while now - 8 months did u say - so chin up -  '?*?*?*' to it

    why didnt u find me so sound off to - u know i wudve listened - this is just the stress of waiting - yet again

    try to find u here or fb tomoro and u can really give me what for - lol

    catch u soon

    chris xxx

    chris xxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Sounds like its not just Helen who's a bit down at the moment!

    Waiting screws with your head, your heart & your emotions.....and its just downright cr@p.

    I am sorry your other children are too embarrassed to help their brother, or maybe they think he would be the one to be embarrassed.  It doesn't mean they don't care.

    Most of us cancer patients/carers understand the financial squeeze of cancer, like we need anymore stress eh....whats stress supposed to cause - oh yeah cancer!!!!!!

    It's a new day today and hopefully you will be calmer and who knows......come up with a "cunning plan" to help your kids out.

    Love & Strength

    Debs xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Take a deep breath-------------------- yes normally it is frustrating and sometimes the offer of help rings so hollow, when you actually need it.  I wish people who say i"f theres anything we can do just ask" would  actually think about what the say before doing so, you know what they say the road to hell is paved with good intentions.  You are all suffering from stress and emotions run very high at a time like this, nothing ever seems to be said rationally and people get upset.  Try not to be too offended becuase they feel embarrased about asking for help for their brother, sometimes pride gets in the way, but it doesn't mean they don't love him and feel as devastated as you do about his situation.

    Chin up

    Jo Mac

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Aww normally, sorry they feel so embarrassed to ask for sponsorship.  I think one of the problems may be with the legalities, often if you sponsor someone it goes to a charity and there are rules.  

    But they could do another type of fund raising, like your bar owner friend, think thats an excellent idea.

    Good luck with the scan.

    Carol xxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Just to echo what everyones said and glad youve had a chance to offload. 'The waiting' is so hard to endure. Good news about the charity do. Hope youre feeling more chilled out now xoxo