does this get easier?

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will i ever get over my sister dying?

my best friend,my daughter,(shes my daughter too,cos our parents died wen she was young and we were mum and dad to each other)

my wee sister,is leaving us.i cannot express my feelings,its too deep and hurts so much its like someone reached in and tore some of my heart off,i have physical pain,from crying,i am weak with grief,and pleading.

she has a few months at the most,thats it,we were told in feb,so all we have is the next few months

how do i prepare,how do i hold her one last time,without dying with her how do my other sisters and i watch her go oh god its gut wrenching im so scared for her,i love her so much,i really do,i love my sister and i wish i could take her place

just so she can have time with her kids,and her hubby  i hate this disease it takes our loved ones away,

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Oh you poor sweetheart!

    I can really feel your pain because I'm going through something similar but you have known your sister all your life.

    It's hard to know how to cope but we both know that we are amongst friends on this site who are all coping, the best they can.

    Keep your chin up, just like I'm trying to do.  John may only have months left too, a year at the most, and I'm going to make the most of the time I have left with him.

    Sending lots of love and *hugs* for you and your sister.

    x x x x x x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I do feel for you.  Knowing a loved one has limited time left with us is so hard to bear.  If it is any comfort to you, many of us here know and understand what you are going through.  One comment made a while ago on this site by the   wife of a terminal patietent, has stayed with me.  "We family members somehow find the strength to do what we must."   It sound glib I know, but try to take one day at a time.  If I have learn one thing from the many comments of others in our situation it is to make sure that  we tell our loved ones everything we need to while we still are able.

    Love to you and your sister

    Daffie xxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I lost my wonderful younger sister to liver cancer nearly seven years ago and know how you are feeling. There  is a space in my life that will never be filled. She did not have a family of her own but had many friends who rallied round. We were very close and she adored my three children, who she called "her babies". I tried to be there for her and comfort her because I knew she was frightened. In the last few months I was with her every day and we talked if she wanted to or just hugged. She had terrible back pain that nothing seemed to alleviate, except if I rubbed her back so I would do that, sometimes for hours. The last week was particularly hard but we talked to her in case she could hear and she died peacefully holding my hand. It didn't seem real at first and I couldn't believe she was gone  but at least we were with her and she knew how much she was loved. You do find an inner strength from somewhere that helps you to cope  and you will too. Remember that we are hear to listen and offer support, you are not alone. Lots of love to you and your sister,   lizzie xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    thank u all for ur comments xxxxx

    if i hadnt found mac site,and the ppl there,id be in a bad way ive found comfort,love and loads of laughs too so thamks all of u xxxxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Thinking of you both even more so tonight. xxx