feeling low`

The effect that the filth has on everyone afects them in differenet ways. Of course you are right to voice your concerns and air your feelings. We are not in a "my cancer is considerably worse than yours" scenario. Regardless of what it does and what stage we are in we have all got the same fear. Maybe at different levels and we deal with it in different ways but the only way you can deal with it is ask the questions. What a ridiculous thing to say that someone would prefer a scar instead of what they were going through. I would prefer an arsehole but lost mine. We have got what we've got and I would never belittle or decry anyone for being extremely concerned. Make sure your surgeon knows your feelings - piece of mind is part of the cure.

Keep smiling

love

Drew

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Hi Purple,

I can totally understand your concerns and I would feel the same.  I'm glad you feel you can get it off your chest, because that is what this site is all about isn't it?  I hope that your surgeon does an excellent job for you and you are happy with the results.

Take care

Nic xx

hello purplehouse

sorry to hear you are feeling so low - but obviously we can all understand why - it is all such a worrying anxious time - try not to let other peoples comments get in your head - sometimes "chat" "emails" dont really sound like they should .........

as for your forthcoming op - good luck hun - im sure you plassy man will do a fab job - hey you may be pleasantly  surprised .......(may give you a little lift at the same time ......do you need one ?)

;)

big (((hug))) xNx

Hi Purple, sorry to learn your feelings were stamped on!  I must say, I only have one breast and a very swollen arm from lymphodema but if my face were to be affected I would be mortified - its the window to our soul.  I understand fully you feel very vulnerable about your face and sincerely hope the plastic surgeon will be able to help you as best as poss.  Everyone on here is dealing with cancer and its about being able to talk about our feelings and be heard not critisized.  You cannot change other people's point of view, you can only change how you deal with their response.  So, please don't let the person make you sad - maybe they were angry at the time themselves and didn't think of the impact it would have on you.  Move on, we are here for you and I wish you all the strength in the world to face the world with pride one day.  God bless, look forward to reading your thoughts/feelings.  Ann x

Hey Purple,

                   I am so sorry that you were hurt by a comment but you were absolutely right to say that it affected you . As Drew says, we are not in a "my cancer is worse than yours" situation. Everyone, with any type of cancer, at whatever stage or who has someone close to them suffering fom the disease, can come on hear and be listened to and supported. Your face is on show all the time and most people would be apprehensive at possible scarring but I hope your surgeon does a fantastic job and wish you the very best of luck.

         Keep in touch and let us know how you are.

                     Love and hugs,

                             lizzie xx