what happens now?

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FormerMember

15 Feb 2010

It’s been 13 weeks since mum died, I thought I was alright but things keep getting worse, I finally went to the doctor and I’m now on antidepressants which I’m not to happy about, I feel really lost I’m been my mum’s daughter and carer for so long who am I now? I’m having money problems which means I had to borrow money to buy my prescription. What a mess to get it! , doctor suggested counselling I was willing for any help but I have heard nothing and that was 5 weeks ago maybe I need to move away and start again, I just want to be happy again and feel normal.

So much for family I don’t hear from my brother or sister from week to week they only call when they want a babysitter, sometimes when I feel really lonely I make up excuses to call like if they need me to babysit, but there too busy to talk to me.

I can’t afford to go out so I stay in my days just fade into each other weekends i don’t think I even get dressed just sit on the sofa.

I don’t think my mum would be too proud of me now!

FormerMember over 15 years ago

I am sorry to hear you so sad. I wonder if there is a Maggie's centre near you? They will be able to fix you up with a counsellor almost immediately and also will help you to sort out your finances as they have special days for benefits etc., They don't only look after cancer patients but also their breaved relatives. Also you will meet other people who are in the same boat as you.

Your mother - I am sure would not like you see you so sad - why not give it a try?

Best of luck

Christine xx
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FormerMember over 15 years ago

What a horrible time you're having, I'm so sorry. I imagine it's expecially hard as you were your Mum's carer. But it's only 13 weeks, don't be too hard on yourself. You're not alone though, there are people who can and will help you. Sending you warm hugs. XX
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FormerMember over 15 years ago

13 weeks is not long, I lost my mum 13 years ago and still find it hard sometimes, you have a lot of experiance under your belt now perhaps you could use that to help others, either as a volunteer or as a paid job. I volunteered at a hospice and while it was hearbreaking at times it gave me more than I ever thought it could. Just had a pacemaker fitted so off sick so to speak, but will be getting back to it as soon as I can. Cant comment on the brother and sister side as I was an only child but now without dad as well do feel a bit on my own. Take care and things can only get better.
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