familys are't worth it sometime!!

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 Tommorow is my mums funeral.  my brother and sister have took control with everything and i had little say,  ok i thought people deal with  loss in different ways.

 They asked me to write the speach for mums funeral which you can read  on the previouse blog. and they have  re written it them selves,  its no longer a love story/ fairytale which is how i saw my mums  and dads life together its all about how they both were ill and died. as if we did't no that. im so mad im thinking of not even going tommorow. im so angry  with them. why ask me to  do  it if they were going to change it anyway.

 

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    im sorry that you have lost your mum, im sure you are finding things difficult enough, its not nice at all when u clash with your family but im sure you feel it is important to go to your mums funeral tomorrow for ur own sake and no one elses.I  hope that you get things sorted out and things go smoothly tomorrow best of luck. take care lisa xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Please go tomorrow, I think you would regret it if you didnt. Use your anger and turn it into something positive and stand up to them...tell them tou WILL be reading your speech as it was absolutely beautiful how you wrote it.  I really feel for you and think your siblings are being very unfair but I think you were right in saying everyone does deal with loss differently. Them taking control is probably what is getting them through but its not helping you in anyway.

    I wish you all the best for tomorrow and hope things turn out to be ok

    Thinking of you

    Love Chrissi xxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I am so sorry for how things are turning out.  I think funerals generally cause more arguments than wedding arrangements!

    You are right, we all deal with it in a different way but have you tried to tell your siblings exactly what you told us.......ie you saw their story as a love story and everyone already knows about their illness and untimely deaths? I read your speech and thought it was very touching.

    I hope you all reach a suitable compromise that will allow you all to say your goodbyes to your Mum tomorrow - please keep the focus on your personal tribute to her and if you don't go, would you ever forgive yourself?

    Love & Strength to you

    Debs xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    i think your  all right im angry and upset right now i will go tommrow  but the speech has already been rewritten and given to the  deacon to read.

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    It wouldn't hurt to have your copy with you and if you get a chance to speak to your sis & bro before just hand it to the Deacon......never say never ;)

    I wish you strength for tomorrow.

    Debs xx