December, Christmas and

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FormerMember

7 Dec 2010

Christmas -

Christmas fast approaches, and for many of us it is a struggle to get into the festive spirit , decorate the tree and shop for pressies. We put up the tree last night, amid tears and smiles, memories of Christmases past flooding our minds. It was very difficult, but it's done and standing proudly in the corner of the living room, making claim to its place. And on Thursday this week I'm going to a remembrance service at the local Marie Curie Hospice, where I and many others will come together to reflect on the last year, and to light a christmas light in memory of my beloved Mumxx.

So here we are, Christmas Present. Not Christmas Past. Christmas past was a happy carefree time, never imagining that Cancer was about to bestow such devastation on our family yet again. Smiles and laughter, happy faces and a family brought together with love. And Christmas future, well I imagine that Christmas future will be a lot like Christmas past.....one day eventually. Without those we love and care for it is very hard to imagine that Christmas future will again be a celebration of family and love and yet it will happen. Christmas present, that is much harder to describe. Christmas present is an ache, a longing for those we have loved and lost, a wish that things could be different and a certaintly that things will never be the same again. Yet Christmas Present brings with it the knowledge that those we love would want us to smile, to laugh at the cracker jokes and groan at the bad televsion programmes. Christmas Present is now, tears and heartache and yet mixed with smiles at the memories of every Christmas Past. And memories are forever, in our hearts we all carry the memories of all those Christmases Past, memories to treasure and help us through this time. So try to remember that those we that we have loved and lost are still here with us in our hearts this Christmas and always, for now and for all those Christmases yet to come .

An angel sits on top of my Christmas tree,and up above there is another watching down on me xx

Love and Hugs to everyone ,Sharonxxx

FormerMember over 14 years ago

Sharon, that is so beautifully written. Lots of love and (((((((HUGS))))))). Caroline XX
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

Thankyou Caroline,xx ((((hugs)))) back to you. This is such a emotive time of year anyway, and I know that we are not alone in feeling like this just nowxx
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

I echo your thoughts, this comforts me when I am missing my mum, our 1st christmas apart.

Feel no guilt in laughter, she'd know how much you care

Feel no guilt in laughter, she'd know how much you care.

Feel no sorrow in a smile that she is not here to share.

You cannot grieve forever; she would not want you to.

She'd hope that you could carry on the way you always do.

So, talk about the good times and the way you showed you cared,

The days you spent together, all the happiness you shared.

Let memories surround you, a word someone may say

Will suddenly recapture a time, an hour, a day,

That brings her back as clearly as though she were still here,

And fills you with the feeling that she is always near.

For if you keep those moments, you will never be apart

And she will live forever locked safely within your heart.
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

Mitten, thank you for sharing that, it is ver poignant and touches my heart.xx

Having a bit of a meltdown day today, no reason in particular - just a day when mums loss seems even harder to bear. But it is true, our mums are with us always in our hearts and nothing will change that.

Love and (((hugs))) to you and to everyone missing someone just now, Sharonxx
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

Beautiful blog Sharon, thanks for sharing. Mitten, those are lovely words. Love to you all as we face the first Christmas without our dear ones. Val XXX
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