I managed to get an appointment with my GP this morning. He told me that the way I am feeling is perfectly understandable and that he agreed I am not fit to work at the moment. He has given me an initial sick note of 4 weeks but is happy to give me another one in four weeks time.
We also talked about the possibility of bereavement counselling, something I have had before and intend doing again anyway. Seemingly there is a 12 week waiting list for the NHS and so he suggested I contact cruze and see if I could see someone any quicker.
I phoned them this morning and the woman was lovely. She says there is a waiting list but that it shouldn't be as long as 12 weeks, so she has taken my details and said someone will contact me with an appointment.
On the work front there has still be no response from my boss to my email. Today I emailed her again and told her I'd been to my GP, had a sick note and was seeking counselling. I have still had no direct response but she has been to my friend twice since I spoke to her yesterday. The first time was to tell her she had received my first email but hadn't replied yet as she was trying to think of how to word her reply. Can you believe it? She said she thought she would just leave it! So there I am needing to know where I stand and she choosesto ignore it rather than deal with it. The second time was today when she went to Suz to tell her she had received the other email re: the sick note and counselling. She said to Suz that she was pleased I was looking at counselling and that school could probably help with that. Sounds like she wants to refer me to OH something I am not happy about! She said to Suz she was going to ring me and did she think I would answer her call. Suz said of course I would, why wouldn't I!?! As yet there has been no call.
I've set the wheels in motion on the counselling front as I know how long you can wait for an appointment and I'm not actually ready yet to talk about everything as I feel things are still too raw. Now it appears she thinks she can speed the process up by putting it in the hands of occupational health. I am not happy! She needs to let me deal with this at my own pace and accept that I know what is best for me and that's what I'll tell her if she ever rings!
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