Monday September 20th - I don't know what to do!

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Mum seems to be deteriorating by the day.  She can't wash or dress herself.  She can't get out of bed or stand up from a chair.  When I ask her to move her leg a certain way like mum move your left foot forward. she thinks she's doing it but nothing happens.  She can shuffle along when I support her but is extremely unsteady and her left leg seems weaker than her right.  She seems vacant like the lights are on but nobody's home.  I can't explain it.  If you talk to her she answers and seems lucid but doesn't engage in conversation.  I would not dare leave her in the house on her own and just don't know what to do.  My aunt and uncle asked me today if I didn't think it might be an idea to get her into hospital where they can assess her properly.  I really don't want to do this but know that maybe it has to happen.  I really wish she had been able to get into the hospice but that hasn't been possible.  My nerves are in tatters.  If she felt ill I wouldn't hesitate in getting her to hospital but she's eating well, doesn't have any pain and says she doesn't feel confused.  I just don't know what to do!

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hello Cel,

    I have all of 20 seconds to write this, but I reccomend that you give NHS Direct a call, just see what advice they have. Warmest wishes... Anna xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Caroline, Give the Gp a ring your mum needs to be assessed, I know how difficult it is but it will be better for you both. Is there a reason she cannot get into the hospice. Take care

    Love Teri

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Anna, thank you for responding to this.  You have enough on your plate without taking time out to think about me.  I have rung mums lung specialist nurse and she feels it would be best to get mum into the hospital tomorrow.  Caroline XX

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Caroline, please listen to the advice of your friends  on here, your Mum needs some professional help and you cannot keep taking all responsibilty of your own shoulders and try to cope with everything.

    I know you are reluctant to let your Mum go to hospital - but really it is her needs that have to dictate the action you take.

    Once she is accesed the hospital have professional care workers who may be more able to use more pressure to help get her into a Hospice.

    Take care mate - your health is important too and there is a limit what anyone should try to take on.

    Hugs

    John xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Caroline,  I agree with everyone else about your mum going into hospital, I know it's hard for you, you are so close to her.  I follow your blogs all the time, and would just like to say I hope it's just a little blip and she'll soon be back with you again xx Jeanie