talking about funerals

Bert would never ever talk about dying he always said he would get better, He planned most of his own funeral last year when he was in remission and thought he was ok. When he did die it saved a lot of niggling between the kids who all wanted different songs. Bert went to the funeral parlour and chose his coffin told them he wanted a humanist and as it was all recorded as his wishes it could not be changed. So he had the funeral he wanted just not quite so soon as he had planned it for. So perhaps your mum just does not want the hassle for you, that you had with your dad.

Love Teri

i think maybe your right thank you glad bert had what he wanted just sad it was sooner rather than later xx

Hey there just talking bout funerals. When I was first diagnosed I did say to my husband and daughter this is the service and hymns I want but they just laugh at me and it is a family joke if we hear a hymn or song they say "mom's funeral song" and we all laugh.

seriously though if you do know what you want whenever it may be. WRITE IT DOWN. save your loved ones anymore hassle than they already have.

Expecting to be here for many more years yet. LOL

love Vee. xxx

Couldn't agree more with Veekay. WRITE IT DOWN. Of course you are not expecting to die tomorrow but when you do die be it in five or fifty years'it will save a lot of grief if those left behind can be comforted by giving you a service or whatever just what YOU wanted.

Ps Also make a will and that is for practical reasons as well as sentiment!

Hi Muffin,

What a good idea your Mum writing down what she would like at her funeral,and all the hassle it will save.

So Im off now to get apiece of paper and do the exact same thing. Knowing my lot they would end up arguing for weeks as to what I would want .

Like you Teri, I too am going to have a Humanist Funeral just like Bert.

Take care Muffin and be safe.Love Sarsfieldxx