This time next week, it'll be done...

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So next thursday is the op.  Cant say im looking forward to it.  I am so anxious.  I am so scared. 

I am hoping that its not going to be as bad as i think.... is that possible? i think im preparing myself for the worst so that im pleasantly surprised, maybe my pain threshold isnt as bad as i think...

Had last genetics counsellor session yesterday - its helped.  i realsied that i am a control freak! ha! i have this need to know EXACTLY what i need and when.  I was explaining how uninforned i feel - my breast nurses havent been helpful - and i was focusing on "why havent they told me what i need to bring in " "why havent they told me how long im gonna be in for" "What size of post op bras do i need"  "why havent i seen my consultants again"..... all these things that i cant control and i will find out once im in, over time. 

Last day at work today, its sad cause i will miss my colleagues - i see them more than i see family or friends - they have been supportive though.  Im hoping to be back mid october - whioch gives me7 weeks off? Maybe im being naieve....

My "goodbye boobies" night is tomorrow, that'll be fun!!! :)

 

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hello Aimi

    I am feeling anxious for you! But it is the start of a new era in your life, hopefully a cancer free future, and you are doing the bravest thing. It is going to be me soon, so my anxiety is also rising and I am a control freak too!

    I have several lists already and will be happy to share my 'what to take to hospital' list with you. Also check out a lady called Heidi on Facebook (Kilgarrif, I think her surname is) who is making heart shape pillows for post surgery (stops arms rubbing on the surgery site).  There is a sewing pattern on her page so you can make your own in advance and if you don't have time before next week and want some, she might be able to sell you a couple?

    There are some other great groups on Facebook if you use it who can help you with many of your questions and I have been using these groups extensively for the past six months while making my own decision. They are closed groups so you have to ask to join and the content is only open to group members.

    Also the National Hereditary Breast Cancer helpline is really helpful and this takes you through to the lovely Wendy Watson, one of the first ladies in the UK to have a double mastectomy due to a gene fault. She is a wonderful support.

    I will keep checking back on you as well if you don't mind?

    Enjoy your goodbye boobies party! (I am planning a Ta Ta to the Tatas!)

    Julia X

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Julia!

    thank you for the message.  And of course, i will be hoping to add a post not too long after surgery.

    and thank you for all the links and advice - i will be sure to check them out!

    Just had my pre op assessment - they took blood which i wasnt prepared for considering i fainted last time, but it was ok not too bad - i have a fea of needles. :(  typing this with sweaty palms lol

    I think all my anxieties are going to be at breaking point next wednesday if op goes ahead ok (unless bloods come back with anything!) I think its perfectly natural  though to be thinking and feeling all these things. 

    Julia do you know when your op is???

    xx

     

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hello again, just chillaxing for the evening now, been to the gym, M&S for hospital jimjams, fed, watered etc. TGIF! I'm pooped.

    I don't want to jinx it as it is NHS and anything could happen but my op is due at end of September, I won't be announcing actual date until I get it in writing! I'm used to the blood letting now having had my first surgery in March 2011 and then chemo and a multitude of checkups, next one being next week, eeek. Even after years of being a blood donor, I still can't 'watch' but needs must! Hope you'll be ok with the drains - that's the bit I'm dreading....

    Just a thought - cook some stuff now that you can freeze so you don't have to worry about doing anything much post op. Particularly if you've not got anyone to help.

    I hope your party goes well tomorrow, I know I said I'd be doing one too but might chicken out! Although I do have a friend who makes fab cakes, might do a lunchtime thingy in the office.

    Anyway, have a fantastic weekend and let your hair down.

    XXX