Decisions decisions

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Toni's slept all day and yesterday was the same. This happened last week too. His pain has been managed and now he has bad nausea but otherwise he feels okay. He worries about how much he is sleeping and of course so do I. It makes life very lonely and last week I started to feel quite depressed. I am quite self aware so pulled myself out of it but it's a thin line between getting along and coping and sinking into depression.

My daughter has offered us the spare room in her house. It would mean moving 120 miles away but we'd be close to Toni's family as well as my other 2 daughters so I wouldn't be so isolated.

On the other hand he has a very good package of care here and I would want to make sure he got the same if we moved. He's keen on the idea of moving and it wouldn't be a major upheaval as we'd leave most of our stuff here and my daughter's partner would move anything we wanted shifting. We did plan on selling  up and moving anyway this year before the big C stuck it's oar into our lives.

So I have a lot to think about and I just don't know what to do for the best. We could always trial it I suppose before we made a final decision.

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Claire

    Moving in with your daughter sounds a lovely idea.  It would give you all some more time together.

    I'm sure it would be lovely for Toni to have his family around him and give you some company too - win, win.

    As far as changing hospitals, you could always ask advice from your current hospital.

    I'm sure what ever you decide will be for the best.

    Take care

    Jo

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    How about renting your place out on a short term lease then if things dont work out you could allways go home...and maybe if your selling your place it might take time for it to sell...

    changing hospitals especially if your hubby is having treatment at a decent one might be risky....

    hard to know really...

    i met someone on share and i would have moved to buxton if she had wanted that but she had allways wanted to live on the coast so she sold her place, it only took 6 weeks from going up for sale to being bought...she now lives 7 miles from me and is loving life by the sea...

    it meant i could stay at the same hospitals which was good as the chemo unit and my specialists have been brilliant  and might not have been as good if i had moved....

    best thing to do is think what you and your hubby want to do...then just do it...

    hope everything works out for the best....

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    think the worst bit will be making the decision, am a great beleiver in that if its meant to be it will happen easily, and hope it all pans out for you,Take care