Counselling today

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FormerMember

15 Sep 2011

I dont know what people think of this but. I went back to my counsellor today after about 3 months apart, i knew and so did everyone else that i wasnt coping. But my counsellor says im 'grown up enough to know what i want and i think you dont need counselling anymore, what do you think??'

I told her i think the reason i went in today was because things were beginning to build up and i needed to tell somebody, somebody i knew i could confide in. So we have decided that if i go and see her once a month, that that should be okay. Yeah im feeling every emotion under the sun tonight, but im thinking that may be a good idea.

She also said maybe i spend too much time on here, and that my life is tipping one way. That way being bad, because one time (8 months back) i wouldnt talk about cancer to anyone,and i didnt want to. and she thinks maybe now that i am, its good. but maybe i have done it too much, and the scales are going down the other side. What do people think???? Advice on that pretty please? xxx Lots of love and kisses. Gracie x

FormerMember over 14 years ago

Hi there,

I think it's very difficult for counsellors to give general advice on grief because it's so personal, everyone comes to it in their own time and deals with it differently. I'd say do what you feel is right for you. I love being on here because I feel like people here understand how I feel and what a huge chasm cancer created in my family but I can see why people would step back, it can be hard, not only when friends you make on here pass but also the stories of people surviving the cancer that your loved didn't. Just take things at your own pace and be kind to yourself, that's what I'd suggest. Love vikki xxx
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

Hi Gracie - glad you went to see the counsellor today and feel it is a step in the right direction.

I hear what the counsellor is saying. Perhaps one way of moving on would be to get a voluntary job in your spare time and in actually helping other people you would be helping yourself. The chat room is a constant reminder of cancer and I fully understand why the counsellor is concerned.

Take care x
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

Hi Gracie,

You do what you think is right for you. But I must agree with

the Counsellor. You have been through a lot. Time for Gracie to take some time out. If you need us you know where we are.. All the best and good luck.

Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xx
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

Hi Gracie,

I feel the counsellor is right. This site is a constant reminder to you of the stress you went through.

Don't feel as if I am rejecting you by saying this, I am only concerned about your state of mind at present. Once you feel stronger come back and let us see you have grown into the person you deserve to be.

((((Hugs)))) Bee xxx
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

Hi Gracie,

You and the family have been through so much. Deep down you know the answer.

We are always here when you need us.

Don't live your life through yesterdays it's today that counts.

It's never easy to say goodbye to anyone or anything. Because of that I suggest that you give what your counsellor is saying a go. To live in the past is no life and I say hand on heart that we (macland) want the best for you. So take that step as scary as it is.

We will always want the best for you and will always be there if you need us.

So deep breath, you are strong enough now to move onwards and upwards.

Hugs Helen xxx
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