latest on mum

Wishing you well nannydi, just to let you knoe i and thinking of you at this difficult time.

Reneesha xx

Wishihg you all the best with mum and the family, I'm going into my local Hospice, on Wednesday also for a couple of weeks, I find it a great place to relax and get truthful answers to any questions you might have. This will be my 3rd visit now in just over a year,I know it wears my loverly wife Sue out with the traveling eventhough we live locally.

Once people find out that you have Cancer they seem to appear from nowhere and have very little to say.

You and your sisters are doing a grand job & don't let anyone push you arround especialy the social services, the Hospice will have someone on their team who deal with cases like your mums all the time, try and get them to meet up with you so that you can get whats best for you and your mum.

Remember as Sue was told your not Superwoman so let people help especialy the the team at the Hospice.

Thinking of you all

Ian x

thing is i live in devon, one sister lives in lichfield and other lives near mum so unfortunately most of care falls on her, she works til 2am everynight so she can't really call in to get mum up on her way home, so mum is on her own, there was talk of carers going in in a morning and evening but there still a huge chunk of the day where noone can guarantee being there and she very unsteady on her feet

at least in a nursing home she won't be on her own and it will take a lot of worry away, that she not on her own and she not going to hurt herself and not be able to tell anyone

Will be thinking of you Nannydi having your family meeting. It is not any easy decision to make, but you have to do what is best for your Mum and yourselves too. as you say she could be cared for 24/7 if she is in a nursing home.

all the best Rosie

mum is still in the hospice, slowly but surely getting over a chest infection

but we ahve had the meeting and we discussed options

mum doesn't feel that she can manage at home and is scared of going home because she will be alone.

so the social worker has told her that she has two options she can either stay in the hospice or go into a nursing home

the hospice is very good, but there is no privacy, she is in like a ward with four beds in it and in the two weeks she has been there two ladies have come in and died so she now thinks that that is going to happen to her

so between me and my two sisters we have looked at two nursing homes in the town where she has lived for 50 years ( rather than the ones near my eldest sister) where she also wants to stay

and we found one lovely one and she will be fully funded and that has been fast tracked. apparently they do that when the patient isn't expected to live for more than 12 weeks

anyhow waiting on a phone call at the moment to see if other sister agrees with me and eldest sister

on the home

mum has stated to me that she wants to go to the home as it also means she doesn't have to change her gp as he is a lovely genuine man who has a fantastic bedside manner

social worker is going in tomorrow to find out what decisions we have all come to