Cancer makes you question people and things.

i totally understand your blog. when i was diagnosed with cancer, everyone else fell to pieces around me, maybe thats because of my age. but i felt i had to be strong for everybody.

alot of my friends also walked away, one telling me they didnt want  to get close to me incase i died.. and the other saying to me, that it was to close to home and she didnt think any one our age could get it. some people arent sure how to handle these things.. so i carried everyone else, told them all not to cry blah blah blah...

i understand the looking well bit 2.. because even though you dont feel well, u might still look well. think people expect us to have big green and purple spots and grow some kind of antlers or something. hehe..

and your right, you rely on yourself.. think about urself and focus on you getting better. if people ask how you feel say sh*t but im getting there... that soon stops them talking and askin more questions.

you are right to question wether people are being there as a genuine friend, or wether they are doing it out of sympathy, but in my experience it is because they do care.

if you are struggling please please talk to a nurse, or even to macmillan, give them a ring. i wished i had done that... take care of yourself.. and ur not a moaner hun.. cancer is a pain in the a*se! and it takes alot of strength and courage to fight it...

keep going, and be strong for yourself

love emz xxx

Hi, its a bloody barstard. you have to put yourself first as all your strength must be to fight this disease. when i was first told i had cancer i told everyone my kids come first then me as i can only consentrate on getting better if kids are ok. so now everyone knows that they have to fit in with what i want. Kids are being looked after and other mums pick them up and take them places, if anyone offers you help take it. You have to fight this. Your real friends will still be there and it will show who they are in the next few weeks.

Take care love Kaz x

Hi Marion,

Being on this site is as good a place to be. You have all the friends you need or want on here. You want to talk to get things off your chest or just moan like we all do,then we are hear to listen and to pass on any help that we can.The main thing is to look after yourself and if we can help in any way we will try.

Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xxx

Hey Marion,

               I know what you mean. People are always telling me how well I look and that I " don't look as if there is anything wrong with me ". Which is good in one way because I don't want to look ill,

but I don't think they realise the emotional toll it can take to be constantly positive and remain strong. Both of these things are very important to fight this  disease but it can be a strain and so we all need to moan sometimes and this is the best place to do it!

Remember, cancer is part of your life but it is not all of it so try to do things,however small that have nothing to do with this pain in the a*se disease.

             Take care and feel well,

                     Love lizzie xx

Hi Marion, I know what you mean too,someone said to me the other day you don't look any different "What  am i supposed to look like !!!!".I do tell most people i feel fine because i do most of the time but emotionally its a different story. Having cancer changes our lives ,and you do find out who your real friends are . Stay strong and take care,Best wishes  Sue xxx