MY 2nd EVER WEB BLOG - RIP MUM - 30.08.44 to 28-12-08
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FormerMember
This is only my 2nd ever web blog, the 1st one being on this site 6wks ago on the 20th of november, i wrote in that about finding out my mum had lung cancer 4 wks previously.
The reason i am writing this blog is to tell you what happened next, her condition was inoperable due to her also having emphysemia and a previous heart attack a year before. It was decided that her treatment would be chemo and radiotherapy. Her 1st course of chemo was on the 27th of november and she sailed through it, for the first week she was great, the 2nd week she was in agony and in terrible pain, but by the 3rd week she was herself again. Her 2nd course of chemo was on the 18th december but unlike her 1st dose the side effects took hold the following day and she felt terrible. By Christmas Eve she was in agony and my dad called the doctor, he reckoned she would pick up in another day or two. On Christmas day she managed to phone me, but i could not understand her and on boxing day she was admitted to hospital. Her kidneys had failed and septicemia had set in. Unfortunately my mum did not respond to treatment and died at 00.18 on the 28.12.08.
RIP MUM - YOU WERE A REMARKABLE WOMAN, MY ROCK, MY INSPIRATION. my love for you will always be to infinity and beyond xx
FormerMember
So sorry to hear of your sad loss. Don't really know what to say, it was so quick from diagnosis. Like you say prior health problems make coping with cancer treatment more complex & less certain.
All I can think to say is I send you hugs & remember you can return to the site for support anytime.
May I also add my condolences for your Mum. It was a shame that her other medical conditions prevented her having the full benefits of her treatment. She sounded a lovely lady and I'm sure she will be greatly missed. Thank you for sharing your news with us here. You know that you are being thought of by your 'other family' and we will be here to support you whenever you need to come back. Sending you a big hug for now.
I just want to say that I know exactly how you're feeling at this moment - my mum was diagnosed with lung cancer on 25th September 2008, decided against any treatment as it was a large tumour and was inoperable, and she died on 10th December 2008. Her funeral took place on 19th December - and in the time since, I have struggled to come to terms with how quickly everything happened. I spoke to my GP yesterday and she said that yes, it was extremely quick, and I should take time to understand how the grieving process will hit me as shock is one of the many feelings that we go through when someone is taken either unexpectedly or quickly.
I look back over the last three months and console myself with the fact that I did get to tell her I loved her constantly, I kissed and cuddled her (even though she wasn't really a touchy, feely person) and I brought her home from the hospice on 5th December because she wanted to come home.
My heart really is with you at this time - and as hard as it is, you will in time start to think about the good memories you made with your mum and the happy times, and even the 'nice' moments after her diagnosis when she seemed to be responding to treatment. We never imagine a life without our mums in it and the pain of missing my mum catches me unaware sometimes, like when I'm standing in the middle of Sainsburys or watching something on TV. One of my friends said that eventually there is pleasure in the pain of missing someone that we loved so very much but for the time being it's just pure old, hard to take, pain.
Thinking of you and sending you hugs and cuddles at this very sad time - no consolation for you that I am in the same situation I know, but just want you to know that I feel for you so very much.
So sorry to hear of the death of your mother, and how quick from diagnosis onwards, such a shock for you and your family. Please accept my condolences at this very sad time.
