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FormerMember

19 Jun 2010

Hi, I am Julie, my Mum used to call me Loulabell when I was little. My Mum has advanced lung cancer, we have known since the end of March and life has changed irrevocably since her diagnosis. I was moved to join you tonight as my visit with her this evening broke my heart and I don't know how to help her. She was so very low and has been so strong till now. She feels she has no control over her life and emotions, she had chemo last week and was on a high for a few days and now she has sunk like a stone.....Her words, "I don't want to do this any more, it is too hard, I hate not having control over my emotions, I just want to cry all the time"

I feel so useless, I can't make her feel better. I love her so much and life without her is unimaginable. We don't know how long she has...months not years we know that much.

I have a loving husband and two beautiful boys aged 9 and 6 and they adore her too. I have a sister who is 42 and she has just had a still birth, a beautiful baby boy who died when she was 39 weeks pregnant.....Mum was so looking forward to the birth. She has 5 grandchildren and 2 great grandchildren at the young age of 65. She was working fulltime till her diagnosis. I am rambling so I will stop for now

xxxxx

FormerMember over 15 years ago

Hi Julie

So sorry for your Mum and the family,my husband has Non Small Cell Lung he couldn't have an operation as it had spread to his lymph nodes he had Chemo then radiotherapy he was quite ill with his chemo and a Doctor said about a year that was 41/2 years ago he is still doing well so i hope this may give you a little hope.

Take care

Maureen x
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locovan over 15 years ago

Hi Julie

I hated the Chemo but stuck with it and I have disease Stable with my Mesothelioma and I have had 6 months of living a near nromal life.

tell your Mum o stick it out and let them control her life because she will get her world back.

ove Mavis.
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FormerMember over 15 years ago

Loulabell..thats a pretty name. I am so sorry you are going through this..and your poor mum too. I am sorry for your sisters loss, that is so sad. You are helping your mum just by being there for her.I remember that my sisters treatment for brain cancer made her very depressed and you may find your dear mum will feel a little better later on. I wish I could help you because I do understand what pain you are feeling right now and its all so frightening too isn`t it.

Please feel free to add me as a friend if you would like too then we can chat if you ever need someone to talk to.

Take care

love scarlet xxx
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FormerMember over 15 years ago

many thanks both of you. Maureen your story is inspirational and just what I need to hear. She needs to be full of hope but has had a bad day today.

Mavis, Mum has just had chemo and is so tired, is that normal?
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FormerMember over 15 years ago

thank you scarlet, my mum used to call me that when I was little.
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