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Hi Loulabell,

My Heart goes out to you at this most distressing time,for you and your Family. Just be there for your Mum when you can, I know its not going to be easy

But with your Love and Caring at least she will feel at peace with herself. Dont forget to look after yourself with all the worry and Having to look after your family you dont want to make yoursel ill.

Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfieldxxx

And My thoughts are with your Mum.xx

hello loulabella , i just want to reach out and give you a hug , your all going through so much, please feel free to pm me anytime if you need a chat , or a shoulder,

as for your mum feeling low and tired and emotional yes its very prob chemo ,but also all shes going through, but believe me all you need to do is be thier,i lost my hubby in march and he told me it was the being their that really helped and the i love you,s ,so many times a day, the hugs and just to know your not alone, and im pretty sure your already doing that ,

take care and lots hugs to you all jenni xxxxx

Hi Julie, sorry your family is going through such a hard time right now. I can understand as I lost my dad 10 weeks ago to this dreadful disease.

I am wondering if your mum is suffering from depression which is not uncommon with cancer. It might be an idea to have a word with her GP.

I am so sorry to hear of your sister's baby too. My daughter gave birth  to  a wee girl last February and she passed away 4 days later after being on life support for the whole time so I can relate to how you are all feeling about that too.

As for the tiredness your mum is feeling. I can assure you that is perfectly normal. She should pick up again quite soon, but chemotherapy is cumulative and the side effects tend to build up over time.

I hope things improve for you all soon.

Best wishes, Christine xx

Thank you for all your replies, Mum has slept for the whole weekend and is much brighter.

I am looking after myself Sarsfield but seem to pick up bugs which worries me because of Mum, I had a really nasty virus and ended up on anti virals due to a bad case of mouth ulcers, the doc said I was stressed and low. I felt guilty for moaning about it as it was trivial in comparison to Mum's illness. I seem to feel guilty about alot of stuff.

Thanks for the hug Jenni, I bey as a busy Mum you understand how life is such a juggle right now and I work fulltime. They have been so good about my situation.

So sorry to hear about your Granddaughter Christine, I hope your daughter is coping ok.

If I have learnt one thing from all of this it is the value of family, we have always been close but we are pulling together and determined that Mum gets all the love and support she needs. We are building more memories and when she is well having lots of fun.

Julie,  hope you and your mum are going to have a better week...

on the note of nicknames...  my name is Julia and my dad still calls me Dooeybelle...  must be a parent child thing...  I treasure it glad you do too...

best of everything to you all Julia xx