Now my mum is a widow, the other day she said to me "I should have supported you more, I didn't realise what you were going through".
Only now that she has lost her husband, does she understand the emotional anguish that I had to deal with while maintaining routines and supporting my children through the loss of their father.
What frustrates me is that as I know what she is going through and support her, she has no consideration to the fact that I am also dealing with the fact that I have lost my father, am supporting the children with the loss of their grandfather - and the memories of losing their dad. So turns around and makes a comment "well I had my husband longer so it is harder for me"
Okay so mum and dad were together for 48 years, hubby and I had only 13 years together. But I would give anything to have more time with him. I would have liked to have another 30 years!
Given he was 17 years older than me, it was expected that he would go first, but NOT this soon. We still had so much more to do together that has been snatched from us by the cruel disease cancer.
Just ranting.
