Hi Peeps
I am 43 year old female. I moved away to start a new life after my ex-partner sold our house. Just 4 weeks later i was diagnosed with Anal cancer after being told for almost 12 months it was a pile. My 2 girls didn't take the news well and moved back to England to live with their father. I was given my ct 6 weeks after surgery but told it had gone past thee anaal margin and would need 5 weeks chemoradio. I had very little support in my new town so came back to Englaand to join my family.
I applied for a house as homeless but was told that because I had left of my own accord I was volentarily homeless. I was also told that Cancer was not a disabilty so I was not in the top band for housing.
My position now. I am staying with friends when I can and the father of my children. He is good enough to let my 3 kids live there but my daughter is due a baby in 8 weeks and he has an alcohol problem. I am paying for all the food and bills now and am struggling to cope sleeping on the sofa and find it hard to cope with his addiction. I am still awaiting treaatment but i am dreading starting it having no home and not knowing wheere i will sleeping from one day to the next andd living out of a suitcase.
Can someone please advise me im at my wits end , i am so stressed i am having nightmares most nights. Sometimes I feel like ending it all i get so down and haave attempted to do so twice. My 1st grandchilds arrival is all i have to look forward to and even that will bring added stress with our living situation. Can someone please please advise me I feel no one cares and especially not my local council or housing association to whom my doctor wrote and got nowhere at all same for my social worker. Any advice at all would be gratefully recieved,
Many Thanks
Jacqui
FormerMember
but not impossible. You need to get some help - try Citizen's advice or Shelter are very good in these situations - if you have a local Shelter office contact them - they will help you prepare your case.
i was in the same aboat 2years ago, i look in papers etc ,then i went to council and was told the same as you....week after look in paper seen a house for rent who will take on dhss,anyway i took the house fill out paper work etc with the citizen advice ,the council will pay yr rent etc,as they did me
i only just got a council flat 3 weeks ago ,just look in paper or on the net for places ,wish you best of luck xx
I have looked at private housing but council will only pay a certain amount the rest i have to pay myself and private housing is very expensive here. I also have 2 small dogs ive had for 6 years so petss are a problem my daughter would be devastated if i had to give them away. I have my name down on all local council lists impact shelter etc. Thanks for thee advice and i am glad things worked out for you,
your hospital should be able to put you in contact with a welfare rights person, meet with them and they will help with forms and rented accomodation etc.
Cancer not a disability ???? Then why are we covered by the Disabled Discriminatory Act.???
These guys are from another planet. It not only affects you physically but affects your state of mind as well. The DWP are just as bloody useless, unsympathetic morons who do the governments dirty work for them. I could rant on for ages but its pointless. I e-mailed my MP and pointed out one or two things her government had brought in, and surprise surprise, she had no idea how difficult things had become for cancer sufferers and is now 'reading up on recent legislation regarding incapacity benefit and the new Employment Support Allowance.' Contact your MP, its amazing how much they are unaware of and if we dont tell them nobody else will.
It sounds like you are really up against it, so good luck.
