Hi Peeps
I am 43 year old female. I moved away to start a new life after my ex-partner sold our house. Just 4 weeks later i was diagnosed with Anal cancer after being told for almost 12 months it was a pile. My 2 girls didn't take the news well and moved back to England to live with their father. I was given my ct 6 weeks after surgery but told it had gone past thee anaal margin and would need 5 weeks chemoradio. I had very little support in my new town so came back to Englaand to join my family.
I applied for a house as homeless but was told that because I had left of my own accord I was volentarily homeless. I was also told that Cancer was not a disabilty so I was not in the top band for housing.
My position now. I am staying with friends when I can and the father of my children. He is good enough to let my 3 kids live there but my daughter is due a baby in 8 weeks and he has an alcohol problem. I am paying for all the food and bills now and am struggling to cope sleeping on the sofa and find it hard to cope with his addiction. I am still awaiting treaatment but i am dreading starting it having no home and not knowing wheere i will sleeping from one day to the next andd living out of a suitcase.
Can someone please advise me im at my wits end , i am so stressed i am having nightmares most nights. Sometimes I feel like ending it all i get so down and haave attempted to do so twice. My 1st grandchilds arrival is all i have to look forward to and even that will bring added stress with our living situation. Can someone please please advise me I feel no one cares and especially not my local council or housing association to whom my doctor wrote and got nowhere at all same for my social worker. Any advice at all would be gratefully recieved,
Many Thanks
Jacqui
FormerMember
Many thanks Bill I have tried and tried to contact my local MP Jamie Reed but keep being told he is in London at a meeting etc i think a meeting with the queen would be easier to arrange. I just feel like not one single person who can help me is willing to. I previously worked for my local housing organisation and when i rang the head she obviously read a script we all had word for word and said that she could over rule the decision not to put me as priority but would not. GO FIGURE! Interesting though that Cancer is considered to be a disability I am suffering more mentally than physically but I might as well have a minor sniffle as far as any local housing or government offive is concerned. I would be interested in seeing a copy of the disability act so i could present it to my local housing office and hear their next excuse.
have you tried the mcmillan nurses they are usually good as sorting porblems for you, as for the housing situation i understand how hard it is to get listened to, i tried for 2 years and never got what i really needed,all they do is quote there rules to you, you defo need help, and yes you do have a recognised disability, i hope you have some success.
have you tried the mcmillan nurses they are usually good as sorting porblems for you, as for the housing situation i understand how hard it is to get listened to, i tried for 2 years and never got what i really needed,all they do is quote there rules to you, you defo need help, and yes you do have a recognised disability, i hope you have some success.
Just Google your MPs name and google will find and supply their web site. There is usually a House of Commons E-mail address so e- mail him/her. Thats all I do. MPs often have no idea what mischief their ministers and civil servants have been up to. [they are too busy filling in their expenses claim forms] Lol
Good luck, Big Hugs Bill xxx
You will find all details of Disability Act etc. on the Cancer Back Up site, also run by Macmillan.
Thanks so much for your helpful comments I have contacted my mps secretary to be told to email her but think i will try the direct approach and email him many thanks everyone for your helpful comments
