Thought i would let you know what happened today at consultant review afrer my partners operation on 15th Dec. It was bad news. The cancer is back..........back in the original site that was operated on in April and again on opposite side of neck that was operated on in December. The upshot is , he in terminal with only few months to live. I am so devestated after all he has gonr through, to get this news. What do i do..........i am in a complete and utter turmoil. It is his birthday tomorrow Thursday he will be 42. I cant stop crying. I went and told his mum tonight........my heart goes out to that lady......her only child. Told the kids, and they have gone upstairs and havent hardly said a word. Dont know what else to say to them......dont even know what i think. JK (kathryn)
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So sorry to hear this - I have sent you a PM xxxxx
Your care and attention must have taken its toal recently? Be aware that during this time that at this time a bewildering emmotional rollercoster is already commenced. Scream ? yes, yell? yes. call out and nobody hears? yes. All you want is to hold on to him and take their pain away gladly. if only you could, and bear it upon yourself. Whether it be years, months, weeks or hours away, hold on to him, WillieL . PS I am still on line should you need any of us.
So sorry to hear your news, after everything you have all been through.. its just not fair. As a family just do what you need to do to enjoy as much as you can the time that is left, use whatever resources are there to support you.
I'm so sorry to read your post. What a tremendous shock for you both. Scream,rant, rave anything you need to do to get it out of your system and once you have then take a deep breath and focus on what you both need/want to do now. Take each day at a time and try not to be 'Superwoman'. I'm sure he would rather have a well you than a burnt out version with him. Sending you a big hug while you gather your strength for the rest of the journey.
