Feeling Tearful part two !!!!!!!!

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Thankyou all for your kind words and encouragement to my previous blog. It has been one of the worse years of my life and finding this web site has been a God send. I try to keep a smile on my face to the outside world, but i just need somewhere i can sometimes have a scream and shout where i dont offend anyone os make them feel embarrased. My partner is now in hospital awaiting the surgeon and knife. He is being very brave and keeping his chin up!!!! Operation is at 9 in the morning, so i hope you all will be keeping your fingers etc crossed. I know everyone has bad years in their lives but i do think ours has been a bit on the trying side. Its a bit like........have a pile of poo......sort that one out.......whoops, here comes another one, and another one. Does it ever stop???????? It all started on 12th December last year, when i took my Mum (my best friend) to see her consultant for a check up. ( she had had a heart attack 12 years previously a month after Dad died ). The consultant decided that she was to stop taking two of her tablets, as he thought she did not need them anymore. Seven days later Mum died of a massive heart attack on 19th December. It was only after that iread about the tablets that she had stopped taking that i found out that sudden withdrawal from them could lead to heart failure!!!!!!!!!! I was so angry i made an appointment to see her consultant but he had already got all his answers ready, and without being medically trained it was difficult to argue against. Mums funeral was on the 7th January. I then had the unenviable task of emptying Mums house. Bless her she had left me little notes everywhere ( it was like she knew something was about to happen ). On the 27th Febuary my partner was then diagnosed with cancer and a new battle began. All the stuff to do with Mum had to be put on hold ( i still have boxes full of her stuff sitting in my bedroom waiting to be sorted). Two days later, some stupid woman reversed her car straight into the side of me as i was driving past. The cheeky sod then got out of her car and was screaming at me saying i drove into her. ( didnt know my car was capable of going sidewards!!!!!) Two weeks later i bent down at work and tore thwe ligaments under my knee cap oooohhhh that hurt. So then on crutches. April..... partner goes into hospital for cancer op. Half tongue, back of throat, roof of mouth, left muscle of neck and shoulder, left jugular etc etc all removed. 13 hour operation , two days in intensive care. Home after 10 days and on the mend!!!!!! May,.........got up one morning and my dog not too well, taken to vets. Was my companion for past 12 years, had been through divorse and loads of poo with me. He died that afternoon, he had had a tumor which had burst. June, partner starts six weeks of chemo and radiotherapy. Copes pretty well, but very tiring and loses the ability to eat. Jaw starts to go stiff and he cant open his mouth. August....my eldest brother gets taken ill in Spain with a heart condition. My youngest brothers daughter diagnosed with womb cancer, she starts treatment. September.......thta was not tooo bad a month on the whole. October, decides to buy new kitchen ( partner likes to cook, thought it would put a bit of go back into him). Pays cash for it waits for delivery 10th November. Bet you cant guess who i purchased it from...........but lets just say they went into liquidation!!!!!!!!!! Oh yes, it could only happen to me. We spent nearly four weeks with a derelict kitchen....no water....no units......no nothing! Did get a kitchen sorted eventually, after i staged a sit in with the company. Week after partner gets diagnosed with the return of the squatter!!!!!!!! Well that sort of takes us to present day, where after just coming back from the hospital my youngest brother has just phoned me to say some bas***d has pinched his van with all his work tools in it. Approx 20k worth. !!!!!!!!!!!! He is self employed so that has well and truely screwed him up. Hey Hum!!!!!!!!!! So i will just say a quick aaaaaarrrrrrgggggggghhhhhhh!!!!!!!!! and i will bid you all a good night. AAAAAHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!! Feel so much better getting that off my chest. xxxx
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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I can't leave this hanging with no reply.  I am not going to say "Brace up, pull yourself together and we can face this together", but if it will help, I'll let it stand.

    You have had enough stress to send yourself out into the stratosphere!  I think you should write to the Queen.  "With respect, is this worse than your Annus Horribilis".  Of course it is.  

    If you are still standing after all that, you are a real heroine.  Bless you.  I'd say, that if nothing more happens in 3 months, you can say it is over.  I wish you a very very boring New Year.  

    With best love

    Rwth

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Crikey, that really was an awful year babes.

    I have found in the past, just when you say to yourself "If ONE more thing happens I think I will have a breakdown" thats just when that one more thing happens, and hell knows where from, but we find the strength from somewhere.  I think its called "being pushed to the limits"  !!  Us women are very good at coping with that!!

    I feel a bit like that myself at the moment - explain another time - but suffice to say I bet a shed load of us will be glad to see the back of 2008 !!

    Loads of love xx

    Simone (working nights - how crap is that!)

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Kathryn,

    What you have been through in a year is what most people go through in at least a 10 year span! I'm glad you've been able to unload here and get off to bed.

    Just want to let you know that I'm sending positive vibes and a giant hug your way,

    Rooibus

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Kathryn,

    I second Rwth: have a very boring new year! They say shit happens but you seem to have got it to the extreme! What about about all that stuff that you are only sent what you can cope with... OK, forget I said that! I'd like to say you'll laugh about all this a few years down the line but maybe not. Why don't I just shut up as I can't think of anything helpful to say to you except good luck with your husband's op and I hope they sort his jaw out so he can open his mouth. My partner would be delighted if my gob seized up. I wasn't going to put that bit in but he said it might just make you smile a little bit.

    Chin up old thing and all that!

    Love, Shelagh

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    You poor thing!  WHAT a year you have had.  Thank goodness you can come here and just vent! I hope you are feeling better after all that. Can't really add anything other than to send you a massive hug and say "there, there"!

    Take care

    pheonix  xxx