Hey - SO, David went for his CT today to inform his tatoo markings for radiotherapy just approved by Army hierarchy here in Germany. SO, Dr told us from results no radiotherapy as he now has 10 mestastisis in his lungs (only 6 weeks post oesophagectomy). So, urgent medical repatriation to UK next step. SO, our lives turned upside down and inside out yet again. SO, know the statistics and fear the inevitable, SO have absolutely no positive thoughts today. SO, in need of a mum hug and comfort but far from friends and family, SO, need to talk but don't want to pick up the phone or answer it. SO, I turn to you...what do I do now??
Have a read through some of the blogs on here-statistics dont mean anything, everyone is different. I know it must be really hard for you but try and remain positive. Its hard when you,ve got no family around, my partner has advanced cancer and neither of us have family living nearby and it gets very lonely at times but i always feel much better just by coming on to this site.
Please feel free to pm me anytime, am feeling your pain, Julie x
As Julie says, don't give up hope. If you haven't read through previous blogs, please do, as you will read some inspiring stories of people who have battled this disease and come out the other end, even when things have looked bleak.
I am wishing you and your husband lots of strength.
My heart goes out to you. Having just recieved the news that my husbands cancer has now returned and cannot be treated, I empathise with you all the way. Take one day at a time and don't try to put on a brave face all the time it will just eat you up. Blog when you can, it helps to straighten your thoughts out. When you're all blogged out, just sit and read other peoples blogs. It helps to remind you that you're not alone with this. This is how I cope.
(((((Julie, David))))) I’m so sorry that your lives have been turned upside down like this, but as always, take one small step at a time and a deep breath. Nothing is set in stone with this cancer, absolutely nothing, so hopefully David can still fight this. Increasingly cancer is becoming something you live with rather than die from.
I know of two people from two years ago who didn’t have the surgery because of metastases and are leading very active lives, partly through a clever combination of chemo and drugs. The tumours are kept suppressed and kept in check until a kind of status quo is reached. As some of the others have mentioned above, there are some inspirational stories on here that you must look at and one comes to mind immediately whose oesophageal cancer has disappeared altogether. Look on the ‘Chitchat’ forum under the heading ‘Can’t Believe It’. There are a few such stories there. So, what you do now is take those small steps, and walk firmly with some support from your friends here.
I send you peace and love.
Kitty xx
Increasingly cancer is becoming something you live with rather than die from.
