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take your time, diagnosis is a shock even when you know what is going to be said as I did. No one can get inside your head and no one can tell you how to cope for the best but I can say that you can come on here and moan, laugh, tell jokes or whatever. People here will read, chat to you and not judge but give all the suport they can. All the best and know that others do care.

Mike

oh bless hun its such an awful time i think the waiting is the worst because when you know exactly what is going to happen then i think you get stronger and once you know the plan then you feel somehow so much better to face things im so sorry that youre feeling this way and you certainly arent selfish one little bit we have all been through this on here and dont quite know where to turn because unless you have been through it no one else understands .......on this site there are the most wonderful people who know exactly how you feel and can and do give all the support you can imagine so chin up hun as mike says moan laugh cry we are all here for you take care love and hugs jen xxx

Hi Jules,

You have to do whats right for you. If your body is telling you to ease off do just that. but the descision is entirely up to you . You kown where your friends are and why we are here.  Look after yourself.

Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xx

Hello Jules, all you have said, I have felt too.  Its like being in a nightmare dream that is going too slow!  If you feel you need time from work, get it.  You are not being a moaner/less strong - this is your life here, there is no rehearsal.  Do what is best for YOU and take each day at a time.  Stress can be the worst medicine for cancer - easier said than done.  Your colleagues may be very understanding but they don't know what you are going through - only you know so take a step back, switch off the phone, take a walk/drive/go for a coffee, anything that might help you come to terms with what is  happening to  you.  I too have had a mastectomy/axillary clearance/grade 3cancer but am still here.  At the beginning I didn't know whether I was coming or going, but I am still here.  Don't be hard on yourself - you are not strong or weak - you are a human being that has been given a great big smack down.  I wish you all the luck in the world and hope you are able to realise you need to nurture yourself NOW so you will be able to deal with the rocky road ahead.  Oh, and welcome to the site no-one wants to join, but are glad they did anyway.  Love Ann x

It is like walking into a strange house and not knowing where the lights are and it is dark, slowly you find each light switch and know where you are going and what you have to do. It is a scary time my lovely, we have been there. Do what you need to do and you will find your way but one step at a time....love Carol xx