New Blog Member looking for advice

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sorry, new to all this blogging but just need to write it down i think. Dad had his oesphagus removed last aug and has done so well. did everything they told him to do , considering he has never trusted doctors before, this was very good for him, he has a couple of hernias at the same site and was going in for surgery but complained to his consultant that he was having some problems eating again so they sent him for camera down, they found more cancer at the join site and sent him for a ct scan, got results yesterday and he also has a shadow on his lungs and spine. going for pet scan today and will get the results on 1st nov, I feel so angry , this is so unfair, I would take this all away from him in a second, the whole family is totally in shock, we were not expecting this at all. they have said they wont know the extent untill they get the results of pet scan and they said there is no cure but they can try and shrink it, I am clutching at straws here to see has anybody had a similar experience and is surviving by having chemo to keep it at bay, I may be being selfish but he has his gloves on and is ready to kick this evilness into touch. 

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Jobo,

    Sorry to hear about your Dads situation, I am afraid I have no specific information on either his problem or treatments.

    Just wanted to say Welcome to the Site, and as others will agree, we regret you had the need to join. but you will be pleased you did.

    You have found one of the best sources of information, support and care there is. You will meet people on here that will be able to discuss with knowledge your Dads condition, because some of them will of been there and some may still be there now.

    We are a group of Patients, Carers, Family Members or maybe just Friends - but we have all been affected by Cancer to some extent and share our experiences.

    You will make Friends on here who may well become friends for life. Maybe the best thing is you need never be on your own - so many here do know what you are going through.

    Maybe the hardest thing could be staying positive while waiting results or information on care plans, it can seem like ages.

    Congratulations on your first blog and welcome to the Mac Family - Take Care

    Hugs

    John x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Ho Jobo  so sorry to meet you during these circumstances and welcome. My dad has oesophagus cancer with a shadow on the lung and spine. Hope your dad is in no pain. The waiting is the worst part. Big((((((hugs)))))) to you. Teresa x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    thanks very much for your lovely replies, dont know my way round the site so didnt even think anyone had seen it, thanks Johnand Teresa for the welcome. dont know whetehr its the right time for me as it upsets me more  every time i come online John, what is your situation, are you a patient, carer or family member and . Teresa, How long has your dad been diagnosed and what is the situation at the moment. I dont know what to think about anything at the moment, just need some answers but i am terrified of asking the obvious question. i feel really stupid cos everyone seems to know lots of things about it, i know nothing at all and i think i may be being a little naive, would love to hear from you both, thanks again for replying  

    Jo xx  

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Dear Jo it's a horrible thing we are going through and my heart goes out to you. Dad was diagnosed on 8th march this year and had 10 days of radiotherapy. He has emphysema which makes him struggle more. Joe we don't know how long but Hun spend all your time you can with your precious dad. Love Teresa xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Jo,

    Ta for the reply and for asking  - I am a Patient with Locally Advanced  Prostate Cancer that has spread to the lymph system - because its advanced there is no advantage in either Chemo or Radio Therapy, so spared those side effects at least.

    The threatment I am on is a 3 monthly hormone injection to keep it in check. Diagnosed in Jan 2008 and still going strong - for a few more years at least !

    But maybe it has helped me get the most I can from every day and even take pleasure in the smaller things we normally take for granted. As I said in my original answer - stay positive - it really does help !

    Hugs Mate

    John x