yet another bad day . i think i might explode soon !

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What a day ! woke up at 4.30 , hubby struggling to breath , felt really guilty as i was sleeping so soundly i didnt realise, first night for ages, always go off ok but normally wake again in early hours, any way, he got worse, he insisted on taking me to work, windscreen wiper broke , car sounded like it was going to break down, snowing , the language was blue, hubby came home to call dr or so i thought , with strict instructions to ring me, mean time i got to work told my boss situation and said as soon appt available at drs i was coming home , and she said , no i wasnt !!!! i nearly lost the plot, i told her yes i was, i was so angry, i had to walk away, but this keeps happening and one day i am going to lose it with her, she didnt care,

anyway rang hubby about half hour later didnt even feel well enough to ring dr, so i did it , dr rang him straight back was fantastic, even offered a home visit but hubby was determined to go their, anyway turns out dr thought he may have a clot, but he hasnt ,might be chest or other infection ,he is so poorly could be anywhere ! bless him, so antibiotics, more steroids, ibuprofen , and check in with dr again tommorow, and is now sleeping on sofa, i think as doors shut and not seen him for a while,

i feel exausted, and got headache, but i am still so angry how can people not understand my prioritys lie at home at the moment , ive got a good mind to take it further but do i have the energy !!! and yes i did stay and finish my shift, more fool me !!!

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I had the same problem 4 years ago. My husband was well for 4 years and we went to work as normal. ( We knew he was dying) Then he went into hospital for a week and came out on the friday. On the saturday I had to work a 24 sleep over shift. I begged my boss to get cover for me, but he refused, so I had to leave my darling and do my shift. From sunday onwards my darling  deteriorated and on the tuesday morning he died. I will never ever get over missing his final " Well" days. When I should have been with him I was nursing others. It has had such a great affect on me that I had to retire from nursing altogether. If I could do it all over again I would have gone onto long term sick. Which I had to do after he had gone.Ask your Dr to sign you off. This is affecting you greatly and you need to be with your hubby. Don't regret it like I do. Take care love Julie xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Jenni, I really do feel for you on this awful journey, it's so hard, and your employer is being so unreasonable...

    I have to say I agree with what Julie says above - I did go onto long term sick to be with Miles for his last couple of months, and I still regret not being there with him sooner. You can always find another job if neccessary, but you will never get back this precious time with your man...

    With much love, Manda

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I will agree with all the others Jenni.  I was also signed off and whilst the first week I totally agreed, I then had self doubts about the validity of being 'on teh sick' until my doctor asked the straight forward question.  'Do you believe that you can do your job properly and give it your full concentration.'  As I spent most of the time crying or stopping myself crying the answer was a resounding "No".  He felt that there was no doubt at all that I should be signed off.  So please, please seriously consider it.  You will make yourself physically ill if you keep trying to do everything, and you need all the strength available to you at this time.

    With love Judi x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    thank you all of you, i am going to speak to someone more senior when im next in on sunday , and if no joy i will do as you suggest and go and see my gp,who is fab ,

    yes my manager who is a woman knows its terminal and knows we have very little time, , but she doesnt give a shit , plz excuse my language, all she cares about is herself,

    on a brighter note just spent 2 hours with my best friend who is pregnant and now showing , and as well as tears ,i actually found myself smiling, which doesnt happen very often anymore,

    so i feel a bit stronger today , but i didnt have to face work which helps , i felt i needed to keep my hand in at work but now im really not sure, more decisions to make but i will see what happens sunday ,

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    don't get mad get even!

    sign off sick and think (but do not say) - f**k the bitch