yet another bad day . i think i might explode soon !

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What a day ! woke up at 4.30 , hubby struggling to breath , felt really guilty as i was sleeping so soundly i didnt realise, first night for ages, always go off ok but normally wake again in early hours, any way, he got worse, he insisted on taking me to work, windscreen wiper broke , car sounded like it was going to break down, snowing , the language was blue, hubby came home to call dr or so i thought , with strict instructions to ring me, mean time i got to work told my boss situation and said as soon appt available at drs i was coming home , and she said , no i wasnt !!!! i nearly lost the plot, i told her yes i was, i was so angry, i had to walk away, but this keeps happening and one day i am going to lose it with her, she didnt care,

anyway rang hubby about half hour later didnt even feel well enough to ring dr, so i did it , dr rang him straight back was fantastic, even offered a home visit but hubby was determined to go their, anyway turns out dr thought he may have a clot, but he hasnt ,might be chest or other infection ,he is so poorly could be anywhere ! bless him, so antibiotics, more steroids, ibuprofen , and check in with dr again tommorow, and is now sleeping on sofa, i think as doors shut and not seen him for a while,

i feel exausted, and got headache, but i am still so angry how can people not understand my prioritys lie at home at the moment , ive got a good mind to take it further but do i have the energy !!! and yes i did stay and finish my shift, more fool me !!!

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Jenni, sorry to hear your boss is being so unsympathetic and can imagine how difficult it must be to keep your temper.  Hope that tomorrow is a better day.,

    Love and hugs,

    Jay

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Jenni

    What a crap day. Poor you.

    You do have rights as a carer under some legislation which I can't remember now but will find for you to help your case. Why should you sign off sick? It sounds like you've done everything right and now you've reduced your hours to spend more time with him you do not need this c***.

    I'll be at the hospital for most of tomorrow but still thinking of you and hope tomorrow is better

    Much love

    Claire

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    i say it as i think....

    tell your boss to shove his job up his arse....

    youl be ok im sure...

    hubby could be entitled to disability living allowance...

    mobility allowance and the like....

    if you really are suffering and under stress from your job...

    well iv told you what to tell your boss...

    :-)

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    if your hubby is terminal.....[ dam ]

    he should get extra money on dla....

    i know it doesnt solve hubbys problem of being ill...

    but it could help if you leave your job.....

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Jenni

    Your story rung so many bells with me.  I finally had myself signed off with stress after a year of living with my terminally ill husband - who actually copes rather better than me.

    You do have some rights - 'The Work and Families Act of 2006' does give you the right to request flexible working.   This can mean that you can re-negotiate your contract to some extent.  

    Cancerbackup do a leaflet: ISBN: 978-1-906516-07-9 or you can probably find the info. on-line.

    Hang on in there.  Keep your cool and I wish you the very best of luck.  It is hell being in this situation.