Well its been a long time coming, and ive been losing sleep over it for too long, my mother in law is a first class bitch, she has always treated me like dirt, well she made the mistake of upsetting my girls , so after a few weeks of deciding what to do ,i emailed her today !
so bearing in mind what she has done, i will remind you of some of it, havent got all day to tell all of it as long list !! then tell you what i said !
she was asked to leave ju,s funeral after saying i didnt look after him properly ! she also upset me as said funeral was to personal , she has never respected or even cared about the fact i was losing/lost my hubby , never once since rung me or kids since ju died, 15 weeks ! but the final straw was her being on facebook pretending that julians ex (of 20 years ago ) is now her new daughter in law ,and calling his exes children her grandchildren, my girls saw this and were devastated, and told nanny what they thought of her ,i didnt see this stuff as id deleted them ,but i need to think of my kids, well then i found out yesterday they had a footy match in ju,s memory last week ,not at any club he ever played for so i dont quite understand why , but obviously was to upset me as his ex was their with his mum playing at being grieving family, well im sorry they are way out of line,
so i thought long and hard and have sent this email ,
"i am writing this email just to let you know ,i am arranging a charity memorial day in julians memory in aug !
i have spoken to the girls and under no circumstances are you and your *new daughter in law * welcome, after the way you have both behaved, you do not deserve to be part of such a great day, raising money in memory of such a special person,, and if either of you do turn up, you will be asked to leave. and anyway youve had your football day "
so its done now, i personally feel i was very polite ,i could have said so much more but i will not give them the satisfaction,
but it did need doing , me and the children are doing really well, and this memorial day is giving me such focus , and i will not have them ruining it ! so im not going to give them another thought for now, unless she emails back and i will just delete her out of my life as she has done to us ,its just a shame as her son would be absoloutly disgusted with the pair of them !!!
im going to go and enjoy some quality time with my son now as thats what is important xx
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