If you have read my blog earlier, you know that my mom passed away on wendsday last week after a 3 weeks battle against bile duct cancer. So far, i have been coping with it good, i think.. tho im still little worried about am i normal or not (btw, thanks to all of you who replied to my last blog entry!!!
FormerMember
Sometimes partners are selfish and sometimes partners don't know how to deal with what is going on, he can't really understand completely how you feel, but he can't bring your mum back either. I would have thought he would be supporting you 100% and I think you need to sit down and talk, if he will. Sorry I can't be of more help to you love...........Take care love Carol
If you guys were right for each other and if he was a great guy, this wouldn't even be an issue. You shouldn't even be having problems with him because he should be standing up for you and being your backbone. No questions asked!!! I knew someone like this when my mom died. I'm just trying to warn you, not hurt your feelings. You are not in the right frame of mind to be worried over him and he should know that. HE should be worried about YOU! HE should be thinking of ways to help YOU! Think about it. Sorry if I sound harsh...{hugs}
Nicole, a question still, does it make difference that im living currently in an another country than he does. And the only way for me to "be" with him is to chat on msn or talk on the phone? Bc right now i know that im not giving him anything, if i could be close to him right now, i could show my love to him. But right now, i know that im not showing anything to him. But hmm.. on the other hand it doesnt change the fact that he is "begging" my love, which makes me feel bad, bc i havent given it to him. So is it me, him or who. Talking with him doesnt lead into anywhere. I just get terribly mad..
And its not so simply. Bc when my mom got ill. I isolated myself from everything. I stopped answering phone calls, meeting people. I just wanted everyone to leave me alone. But he obviously thinks that i dont want his help now either. When i have started to meet people and talk about this all bc it makes it a loooot easier. And i dont know if im expecting too much support, that he actually cant give from another country. Bc i think the best support from him could be a hug and just being close to me. Bc I dont think he understands what im gonig through, and talking with him, aint that good help. Oh.. this is all so complicated.. :/
And no, you dont sound harsh, its good when people say things straight.
