Not sure what to put really, only second time i'll have done this.
My husband got the all clear from his stage 3 melanoma at the end of April and we were so happy, but the last few weeks he hasn't been feeling well, low blood pressure, very dizzy all the time and headaches and at times not able to do anything other than lay on the sofa, which can last for a few days. He got in touch with his CNS who made him an appt with his oncologist. They're sending him for a CT Scan which is next Tuesday (30th) and we get the results the following day. I'm so scared, I try to talk to friends but they don't know what we're going through and i don't want them to get fed up of listening to me going on. I thought we had lots of friends but it's surprised me that some don't get in touch and the invites out and to friends houses or camping have been virtually non-existent since Shaun was first diagnosed in December 08.
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I agree with you that friends and some family abandan you in your time of need! But now think it is because they 'just do not know what to say' my argument is i'd rather they say something than nothing at all!!! Hope the ct scan goes ok, I too have moments when I'm feeling a bit 'sicky' or tired and not quite right, but had mri last month and all is well, i have a ct scan booked end of july now. So I will keep my fingers crossed for you 2!! take care!
So sorry to hear of your concerns for your husband, and I pray that the outcome will be positive.
As regards friends, or so called friends, you have hundreds right here who are willing to listen to you and give you comfort and support when you BOTH need it.
I was very lucky, my friend for over 25 years has been fighting cancer for over 5 years and I was there for her, and when I started my own battle with cancer she was there for me also. We are now closer than ever.
My thoughts and prayers are with you both at this time, Keep positive.
As many of you know, we had the same experience with friends (and some family) avoiding us.
I agree that you have to feel sorry for them really - they're just not emotionally equipped to deal with people who are going through tough times. I feel I've learned quite a lot about human nature since this whole circus started - and it's the people who've gone through bad things in their lives like bereavement, divorce, terrible illnesses, who have the most insight and compassion.
Don't even think about the ones who don't ring etc, Focus totally on yourself and your partner and sod the others, Jeanie x
Or so it seems, at times. You have lots of friends here who will support you and Shaun Jayne so have a moan or a rant when you feel let down by the people you expected to 'be there for you'. xxx
13 years ago I got all clear after diagnosed with CLARK 2 malignant melanoma . I have just days ago diagnosed with a new cancer . So there is hope when you get all clear . I'm living proof.
