Completely lost, life has no meaning

Hello I just wanted to send you a warm {{hug}} and say that i understand your feelings, my brain switched off to when i lost my family to this dreadful disease. I know its different because you are missing your husband, but there will be alot of kind and lovely people here to welcome you and understand what you are going through.You are in my thoughts.

Love scarlet x

Hi Jayne,i really feel for you. You must

be devastated.How can anyone know

how you feel if thy have never had to

face life without the man thy love. This

feeling of hopelessness and being lost

is grieving, and will take time for you

to see your life with a future to look to.

You say you have a son, well he is in

a way going thru the same as yourself.

You both need each other now, to be

a comfort and support for the grief that

is overwhelming you both. Now is not the

time for anyone to say your strong,you

dont feel strong,you need someone to

be strong for you, to see you thru the

bad times when there is nothing to look

forward too. In time things will begin to

be more bearable, you will in time see

a light at the end of the tunnel, but for

now you must listen to your feelings, be

indulgent to your grief,that is what will heal you. Your husband will always be

in your heart, and the love you have for

each other will never die. Jayne you are

always welcome here, if you want to

talk, scream hit out that's ok, many people

here are going thru, have been thru what

is happening to you , so you will find lots

of friends here to help you and listen.

I can send you a BIG HUG, and i will be

here for you, wished i could do more.

Please take care of yourself, be kind to

yourself, and hug your boy, he needs

his mum.

With Love Lucylee. xxxxx

Hi hun - Keep writing and talking here.  I found this site about 10 months after my husband died and it has helped me hugely.  I understand exactly what you say about the pointlessness of day after day and also the concentration issues.

Just remember that you are who you are partly because of Shaun, he helped mold you into who you are today - so he is never really gone.  All I can say is that one day something will happen that will make you smile, even just for a second, and then maybe a minute.  Hang onto those minutes. Look after yourself and your son, and don't expect too much of yourself. One day at a time at your own pace.

Judi xxxx

Hello, I can only echo what Judi has said, they never really leave you but in time you will come to know Shaun in a different way. I send you and your son positive thoughts.

Take care

Love Jen XXXXXXXXX

Hello, I just read your blog and indeed its very early days.  I have a close friend who lost her husband at Christmas 08 and she is still struggling.  She still gets very teary and all we do is be there for her.  Grieving takes time - everything you feel is natural after your loss, if you want to cry do it, scream if you have to but let it all out, you and your little boy have a lot to go through and he must be feeling just as bad so let go of it all and 7 weeks is no time at all, its moments ago, it will always feel like yesterday.