my dad had a bad chest infection last march. X Rays showed a "lesion" .He had a PET Scan was told its "Inconclusive" Then had a Bronchoscopy and washings .We Were told he was clear of any cancer .What a relief!!!. We have now been told that the PET Scan shows that the lesion is cancer. I am totally gutted and so so angry that after been told he is clear he isnt. I cant believe this has happened we see the specialist on thurs i so hope the anger i feel now has settled down by then. My Mum died from lung cancer 11 yrs ago.Its so unfair .Sorry to go on . We dont even know what type of cancer it is yet.
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Hello Jan,
I am so sorry that your dad was told he was clear and has now been told differently - is this because things have changed since last March - or possibly that two different results have been put together to come to this conclusion? I totally understand that you feel angry - don't think there's a patient or carer on this site that hasn't felt anger at some point when dealing with this awful illness - but it is an emotion that takes away a lot of energy and distorts your thinking, so try hard to squeeze it out of you before your appointment with the specialist on Thursday - you need to have your wits about you and possibly a list of things you may want to ask in case you forget everything on the day...
Go for a long brisk walk, find somewhere that you can have a good shout (perhaps somewhere with lots of background noise already in place??!!) and go for it...always helps me to get anger out of my system. The sad thing is with cancer - anger doesn't change it at all - but it can divert your attention from where and who it's needed by.....
Thinking of you as you find the surreal becoming real and struggle to cope with what that means - we are here if you need us, so come back and rant and rave through your fingertips - it certainly helped me when I needed to xxx
Bless you for caring enough about a complete stranger you are so kind, and i will heed your wise words. Your right anger just weakens you and i need to be strong next week. Have read your profile, i am so so sorry you lost your mum to this awful cruel disease.It was like reading about myself in so many ways, my mums favorites were my sister and brother, i was the one who would never amount to anything, but like you was called upon when needed!! I was ok when anything was needed. Like you Hannah my husband is my sanity, he is the man mum said would never make me happy . How wrong she was.Its amazing how us least favorites can be so popular when no one else wants to know. My anger over that situation went ages ago . Please keep in touch and again thanks for caring . You are one very special person love jan xx
I AM SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR DAD & EVEN MORE SO THIS "THING" TOOK YOUR MOTHER AS WELL. MY DAD WAS TOLD HE HAD LUNG CANCER THE DAY BEFORE CHRISTMAS EVE & THEN 3 DAYS AGO THEY REMOVED HIS LEFT LUNG. TO SAY WE ARE ALL CONFUSED & SCARED IS AN UNDERSTATEMENT. WE SAW HIM AFTER HE CAME OUT OFF RECOVERY & HE LOOKED LIKE A VERY OLD MAN & HE IS ONLY 66 BUT MY MUM RANG ME LAST NIGHT & HE IS NO BETTER BUT NO WORSE & THATS GOOD FOR ME (I THINK) GUESS ITS JUST A LONG & SOMETIMES PAINFUL PATH HE HAS TO TAKE BUT WE ARE SURE HE CAN DO IT.
Bless you for posting me your very kind. I am thinking of your dad and your family its a terrible place to be isnt it ? Have asked you to be my buddy hope thats ok take care please keep in touch and let me know how your dad is love Jan xx
Hi Jan - I'm so sorry that you and your Dad have to face this coward of a disease, especially as he was given the "all clear", only to be told later that this "lesion" was indeed cancerous. Anger is an emotion we certainly need at times, it fuels us and the sheer force of it keeps us going, but when it's no longer needed, it burns itself out. I'm sure by Thursday, yours will have fizzled out, leaving you with a clear head which is just what we need when we're trying to get to grip with this monster. No need to tell you to write down all the questions you should ask, as sadly you've been down this road before. I am so sorry that you lost your Mum to this disease, just as I lost mine to it 26 years ago today. Please let us know how you and your Dad get along, ok? with lots of love kate xxxxxxxxx
