Dads goodbye

So sorry that you have lost your dad. I know how painful it is, I saw your post and just wanted to say I too said goodbye to my Dad just yesterday I lost my dad 2 weeks ago this monday. I too stuggle with the fact that it is over so quickly and feel like what do i do now?

I cant give you any advise as I'm not sure where I am yet but alot of friends and family have said words of comfort and some of them have just said let your family and friends take care of you.

My husband lost his mum 4 years ago this christmas eve and he still misses her and wishes he could give her a hug, but he has told me the pain does ease with time but never really goes away.

Take care, just take each day as it comes. I do know that there are two wonderful dads (Angels)looking down on two heartbroken daughters and wishing that they could give them a cuddle and kiss to make it all better just as they always did. xx

I'm sorry to hear of your loss, but heartened to hear the joy he brought to many and the celebration of all that was wonderful about him and his life!  I lost my dad when I was 12, 39 years ago!  Believe it or not, when I run into people who knew him, we still talk about him!  I tease everyone that my memories stopped and so I have to steal theirs!  They are very accommodating and I have learned many more wonderful things about him that continue to confirm what a great guy he was.  I always thought so, but its nice to get the validation.  

I urge you to find little ways to honor him in your life.  Going out to dinner on an anniversary to his favorite restaurant.  Making his favorite meal now and again.  Something personal that you can pass on.  I don't wear perfume often, but when I do, I always wear my mother's (who I lost to cancer in 2001).  It reminds me of her in a very special and close way and makes me smile.

It takes time to find your footing.  You will get through, but HOW you do is entirely in your control.  He sounds like a very special human being and I'm sure he was as proud of you as you are of him.

Lori

Dear j41,

I send to you and your family my deepest

sympathy. Losing a Parent is the worst feeling in the world. I lost both my Parents to Cancer a long time ago, and it still hurts.

The only thought you can keep in mind is. At last he,s free from pain and at rest. May you and your family find the strength of mind to cope in the coming future after such a loss. R.I.P.

Regards Sarsfield.

I lost my eldest son on July 2nd aged 37,they say it gets better with time,maybe thats true,I only cry 2 or 3 times a day now.

Just remember your loved one has not gone,they are all around you in spirit forever,as this poem says...

Do not stand at my grave and weep;

I am not there. I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow.

I am the diamond glints on snow.

I am the sunlight on ripened grain.

I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you awaken in the morning's hush

I am the swift uplifting rush

Of quiet birds in circled flight.

I am the soft stars that shine at night.

Do not stand at my grave and cry;

I am not there. I did not die.

God bless

Paul

xx

thank you for the love and support sorry I havent responded sooner. cant bear to read my own words at times.

love jx