my dad is dying and my best friend won't speak

I think your friend may be having difficulty handling the situation, seeing you so upset may be too much for her. When I was diagnosed and told I had lung cancer the same happened. I was so scared and upset I think I scared people off. Then I discovered this site [the other one that WORKED PROPERLY] and I found the greatest support group in the world. I did'nt need my so called friends as much and ignored them. They came round eventually.

Love and kind hugs, Bill xxx

Hi - my mum has had similar probs with her friends. but it turns out that they needed time to adjust and were very scared.  try to have a chat with her about something else and let her know how you feel. j

Hi Izzy, this seems to be a common problem which a lot of us on this site have experienced.

Like Bill says, a lot of people don't know how to handle a situation like this and don't know what to say.

You could try phoning her and mention the fact that you feel alone and need your friends at this time. Hopefully she will take the hint and be there for you.

Best wishes to you, Christine xx

i think your friend probably just doesnt know what to say to you ....... its a very difficult time

does she know your dad?

if i were you i would fone/text her and tell her how much you you need her right now

sometimes as friends ..... we dont want to intrude on family matters  - maybe this is the case with your friend ....... go on pick up the fone and have a chat

...... go on right now!

love xNx

thank you for your kind thoughts.  i have spoken to her once in the past five weeks as i can never get an answer when i do phone her.  i just don't want to lose my best friend as well as my dad.. that would be too hard.

i'm sure she'll come round but sometimes i need to talk and as both my boyfriends parents died of cancer i know it's hard for him too and i'm just soo moody!!

this site is helping though.. just reading that others are in the same boat xxxx