Its A Wonderful Life .

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We have embraced many changes in life and fortunes since we met.The amazing fun and excitement at first when I was a young midwife and Peter was a Lorry driver we would throw so many sicky's to spend all our time together. we both nearly lost our jobs , then Marriage only 4 months after we met just because it seemed like a good idea, never thought it would last just did it. I continued to live and work 30 miles away from Peter even after we married until Peter found us a little rented room above a shop and we lived together proper. Wow that was a huge learning curve he had never left home until then , whereas I left when I was sixteen and had lived in nurses homes or shared houses. I thought married life would be like sharing with girls WRONG......

But we gradually adjusted 4 years later our first daughter was born we bought our first home a bungalow out in the sticks and life was sweet Peter had his own haulage company employing several men I was a Health Visitor but gave it up when our second daughter came along .

Life then turned and the haulage contracts dried up we had to sell and made the first of 8 house sales we would make over the years. we were devastated to lose our first proper home but I think that prepared us for the ups and downs to come. I returned to work and Peter took a variety of jobs to keep us afloat 

We have been in the gutter looking at the stars and up there looking down. Why is this relevant now?????

Because we are yet again for the umpteenth time adjusting to a new life. A life where Peter is tired, weaker and unable to do the activities he once enjoyed so we have to find new ways to enjoy this time.

This week we have seen P.J Proby. Gerry Marsden , The searchers , Brian Poole & Chip Hawkes, and The Fortunes in a sixties show at the Marlow in Canterbury. and Jo Pasqualle in Ha ha Holmes. at The Theatre Royal. We have been to the cinema to See Sunshine on Lieth and out for a drink. We cannot enjoy meals out and strenuous activities now but can sit and watch and chat and laugh and reminisce argue, moan, plan   This time is precious and for living we are so grateful that we have it.

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember
    Mushy, thank you for that blog entry. It is so warm and positive and full of love and, and that's all really. It just felt special sharing that glimpse of your life and how you continue to enjoy it.
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    Mushy, My You have made me laugh/cry at your post (this is my first post). My husband is also a Lorry driver or he was until yesterday, Jeff's cancer has retuned & he has decided he won't drive any more lorries, but we did watch a new sitcom tonight about a lorry driver :))) Next week before treatment starts we will go watch Sunshine on Leith & perhaps dance again on a Saturday night in the livingroom to Slade & other 70's stuff Yes time is so precious lets enjoy
  • FormerMember
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    That's so lovely, I love reading about how people's lives used to be when they were young, I love listening to mum's stories about how her and dad first met.

    You're totally right though, things happen in life and lots of things change.  It's about accepting the new normal and enjoying things as they are and you certainly seem to be doing that.  It's so nice you are still very much in love and can enjoy your memories while making very precious new ones.

    Take care xx

  • FormerMember
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    Thank you hiloa, We were chewing over the past yesterday when I wrote the blog, and it did strike us as we chatted that we have cried with sadness and cried with laughter life truly is a roller coaster and we will finish the ride it won't finish us.

    misses, Thanx for giving me your first post xx I am sorry Jeff's cancer has returned and guess like Peter he will miss the lorries, they have diesel in their veins...... enjoy the film you will be singing the tunes for days after.

    And mollyb, Yes we love and hate each other. We whisper softly and shout at each other, and I am sure your Mum tells you some lovely tales of life with your Dear Dad. enjoy them xx

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    Hello Mushty.  I always enjoy your blog but I particularly liked this post.  You and your husband show us all how it is possible to adapt to changing circumstances but still hang onto what is important and precious.  Your story reminded me a little of mine.  We married quickly too, but it took us eight months, twice the time it took you!  We go to see a lot of the 60s music too.  I've seen all the artists you mentioned except P J Proby.  Must try to see him sometime, he was always a favourite.  I love "I Can't Make It Alone". 

    Thanks for sharing xx