Yesterday mum had such a good day. She was up, dressed and finally not confused. She was actually on the same planet as us all and she looked like her old self. She had been on a drip to push the calcium back and flush it out and it appeared to be working. My hopes ran high and I almost forgot she has cancer with no chance of a cure! Then BANG today she has took a turn for the worse again. She is on O2, they said to help with the pain. I took one of my sisters with me and it shook us up because she looks like she is dying again. She knew who we were, so she is on this planet still but the mum of yesterday had gone again.
I have this fear she will not come out of hospital, I am afraid that this is it and she is on the slippery slope. I have found that the nursing staff or doctors don't really tell you anything and they most definately don't tell you what is going to happen. They either see so much of it themselves that they forget that this is your first time and do not know what to expect or whether things are normal for someone with terminal lung cancer or they are afraid to tell you.
I remember my partners dad going in and never coming out, he lasted about 5 weeks in hospital until he cuaght an infection, and my mum is mirroring things that he did on hs journey.
FormerMember
Hi there,
I know that things are looking bleak right now, and you are very frightened, but please don't give up. It may seem that the doctors and nurses are keeping things from you but honestly, sometimes they just don't know. Everyone who has to face this journey does so in their own way so you mustn't compare. I can't say if this is the final chapter for your mum but I can tell you that I have been in a similar place, very very poorly and I have come through it, it is possible. I really do hope your mum comes through this trial and I wish you well.
hi ,just want to say . your mum could rally around but no one can tell you that for sure . i do hope she does it must be so hard for you to be in this postion i was there three years ago with my dad & had quite a few scares with him .as i was also very ill last october & my family didn't think i would make it but i did & i am now in remisson all i can say is we are here to listen to you love & try to give suport where we can thinking of you all love theresa xx
