I feel so bloody useless. I live 30 miles away from my mum and dad, have a busy job that requires me to be on top of my game otherwise I put lifes at risk and I feel I cannot do enough to help. I love my mum so much and want to spend every minute of every day with her but it is just not possible but I feel bad about it. My sister is always there at the right time helping out and being all practical and I am not. When I get to visit I am always jolly and make her laugh and that makes me happy but I am sure I should be doing more. I get tearful at the drop of a hat because I do not know how I will cope without having her in my life, she is always there on the sidelines waiting to help me out should I need it, emotionally, financially, with sound advice, I have always needed my mum and I will still need her and she won't be around. I have no idea how long she is expected to be around for as she has told the doctors that she does not want to know. I understand her reasons but I am petrified that I will not have done enough or spent enough time with her to make up for all the years that I am not going to have her around anymore. I want to cram it all in but physically can't.
FormerMember
hi,
take one day ata time, enjoy (if thats the word) the time you have with you're mum, if you re making her smile that can only be a good thing, ake care viv
My brother has been diagnosed with liver cancer and I live so far away to be of much use. Every time I see him I just feel soooo sad for him, his family and the stress they are under. I try to be there for them but always feel my being around creates more work for them, they have enough on their plate without me turning up and wanting to be with him evey week!
I wish I lived close by so that I could do more... I just feel so bad tearful all the time.
I know what you mean. It is so hard to be on the sidelines with so much love inside. I bet you don't cause them extra work - even if you do I bet they are glad of it just to see you would be worth the extra work. I never knew we had so many tears in our bodies though, the smallest thing and I am off!
Take care and my thoughts and prayers are with you xx
