why did this have to happen

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FormerMember

25 Mar 2010

hi my name is sandra,

my husband was told yesterday that he has stage 4 lung cancer, and today we were told it is in his rib bones as well, he is being given chemo in the christie hospital and if hes well enough he will be on trial drugs, we only got married in november and he has a 10yr old son from a previous partner at the moment it feels like our whole world has been turned upside down, so at the moment all we seem to do is cry, we know theres no cure but if it reduces the pain and lets him breath easier , so what started as a chest infection turned into a nightmare, thats our story so far, sorry if im going on but i never thought this would happen....x

FormerMember over 15 years ago

Oh Sandra, I am so sorry for you and your husband. I know exactly how you are feeling, we went through the same. Cry when you need to, you are entitled, none of this is fair. All you can do is be there for each other. Love and treasure the little things you have now together and concentrate on getting your husband pain-free.

Hugs and best wishes to you both. X
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FormerMember over 15 years ago

Hi Sandra,

Ther is no need in this world for being sorry, Thats what Cancer does to those of us on this site who suffer from the disease. You both have had a very hard time getting married in Nov,having a stepson of 10. Then being hit with a bombshell like this.

There is no shame in crying,and being very angry at the world for what has happened. You are going to have to be very strong both for your Husband and your stepson. Love and caring sleepless nights wishing it was you and not him.

Its all part of Living with Cancer. So why dont you stay on this site and you will get all the help you need . We are all here to help in anyway we can Day and Night. If you need someone to talk to we will be here. if you need understanding or advice and help.we are here.

My thoughts at this moment are with You your Husband and son.Try to remain as Positive as you can it wont be easy,but from reading your blog I sense the fighting spirit that you both have. So Sandra my heart, caring, Love and strength go out to you all.

Take care and be safe.Sarsfield.xx
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KateG over 15 years ago

I can only echo what Grace has said. It is the worst possible news and my heart goes out to you both.

Best wishes,

KateG
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FormerMember over 15 years ago

Dearest Sandra, I feel for you so much, life is very hard for some of us and we can't understand why this is happening to us, but cancer doesn't discriminate it just is. so cry when you need to laugh all you can and share your thoughts and worries. we're all here if you need us.

Big hugs to you all. Vee xx
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FormerMember over 15 years ago

i am so sorry to hear this, I know what you are going through too as my husband has stage 4 LC. I took him to the hospital today for his first lot of chemo, he will have to be in overnight. i cry a lot too but try to hide it as I dont want to upset him or the kids even more. hugs

Clare x
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