Dads lung cancer has spread

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FormerMember

17 Nov 2010

My dad was diagnosed with lung in May after going to the doctors with a cough! It was such a shock, and for it to be lung cancer. He did smoke but not for the the last 28 years and he's a keen cyclist so you would think his lungs would be healthy - maybe thtas just me being ignorant?!

Anyway, he's had loads going on since then. He started chemo straight away but that didn't work, then he had fluid on his lungs which they drained a few times, the last time he was in hospital he got a blood clot on the lung and now the cancer has spread! He is not having any more chemo now, instead he is starting (today) a one a day tablet that is supposed to stop the cancer spreading any further. I haven't actually spoken to him yet this evening, but I am so confused about it all.

I know what he has is terminal, I know it will get him some day but when and what will happen? At the moment he is at home, he has oxygen to use when he needs it and has lost a lot of weight. But he's still my dad. He still has his sense of humour, he still trys to get out on his trike when he can (motorcycle not pedal!), he just carrying on. I just wish he could keep going for ever. It is so hard to see someone you love poorly and even harder when you don't know what to expect........

FormerMember over 13 years ago

Hi Vikki,

You are a very loving caring thoughtful daughter, and you Dad must be very proud of you and rightly so. He has his sense of humour which will definately

help him, and his will to keep going with your help.

You could be suprised by what people can do when they put their minds to it. I hope the one a day Tablet works. I send you both my strength and support and hope things start to improve.

Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xx
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FormerMember over 13 years ago

Hi Vikki, I am so sorry you are having to go through this. It is so hard to watch our loved ones going through this. I think we all believe our parents are invincible. I know I did when my dad was diagnosed with bowel cancer in February this year. He passed away 8 weeks later before he got the chance to start chemo, although his cancer had spread significantly before he was diagnosed.

No-one can tell you what will happen I guess. We have to take each day as it comes. Some people do outlive all expectations. I would advise spending as much time as possible with your dad and say all the things you want to, if possible. In my case, my dad didn't want to know the prognosis, although I believe he knew deep down, so I didn't get the chance to discuss things with him. When he died, none of us knew what his wishes were regarding his funeral or anything because it was something he never wanted to discuss.

Just be there for your dad and follow his lead. Undoubtedly he will be trying to protect his family and I am sure you will let him know you are there for him also.

I wish you all the very best. Please feel free to contact me if you want and I am more than happy to answer anything you would like to ask.

Take care, Christine xx
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FormerMember over 13 years ago

Hi Vikki, I've been in your situation so I can understand what you are feeling. All I can say is no-one can predict what will happen, and when, not even doctors! So just take each day at a time, spend as much time with your dad as you can - as he still has his sense of humour you can laugh together and that will help you all. Keep blogging, we'll keep replying and supporting you at this difficult time. Love Val X
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